Flompy1
09-13-2002, 04:03 PM
Hi everyone.
Some of you might remember that i posted earlier on this forum (under the nick Flompy) about my insecurities due to my penis size and my previous conditions (scars due to surgery as a child etc).
Reading what a lot of you guys and gals said, i must say that it helped me quite a bit.
I met a girl who i love very much, and our first time together didn't go quite as well for me as i would have hoped. I couldn't get a full erection, i was nervous, i couldn't relax and i couldn't reach orgasm. I told her i was really sorry, but she didn't think any of it at all. We could only have one week together then (long distance relationship at the moment). I went to see her again recently and we spent 2 weeks together and everything was pure heaven. Emotionally and sexually. After my first less-than-perfect attempt, i seeked advice here and it helped me alot. Thank you again guys.
I didn't worry about my size or anything when i was with her. We enjoyed ourselves incredibly much. I only care about her, and i do my best using my fingers, tounge and penis. She tells me that i am the best she has had (no bragging intended here). My penis is only a modest 5.5", wich i think is on the small side. She is asian, and has only had asian boyfriends before. I never believed the racial differences in that departement were true though..but..she tells me that my penis is big. I was quite shocked.
When we have sex, if i push myself all the way into her, she said it hurts and gives me a quick slap on the leg or back. This is making me really confused because what is true in this world..really? If you look at pornography you see guys with enourmous penises which, quite frankly, gives me a serious insecurity problem for a while. My penis looks like a toothpick compared to what you can see on movies or pictures. And these guys can put their whole penis into the woman without her giving a grimace or anything???
I am more than happy to be enough for my girlfriend. But sometimes i feel so insecure about myself and my penis due to what you can see on tv,movies or the internet. And let's not forget what you read on the internet. I wish i could have one of those 7-8-9"..maybe i wouldn't feel insecure from time to time. But then again....if my girlfriend says it hurt when i put all of my 5.5" inside her...what good would a 7-8-9" do for me or her? I am really confused about all this, and i was hoping you guys here at the forum would give me your input on these matters. I've been looking into these penile exercises, but i dont know....does it work?
Thanks for your time,
Flompy1
[This message has been edited by Flompy1 (edited 09-13-2002).]
Some of you might remember that i posted earlier on this forum (under the nick Flompy) about my insecurities due to my penis size and my previous conditions (scars due to surgery as a child etc).
Reading what a lot of you guys and gals said, i must say that it helped me quite a bit.
I met a girl who i love very much, and our first time together didn't go quite as well for me as i would have hoped. I couldn't get a full erection, i was nervous, i couldn't relax and i couldn't reach orgasm. I told her i was really sorry, but she didn't think any of it at all. We could only have one week together then (long distance relationship at the moment). I went to see her again recently and we spent 2 weeks together and everything was pure heaven. Emotionally and sexually. After my first less-than-perfect attempt, i seeked advice here and it helped me alot. Thank you again guys.
I didn't worry about my size or anything when i was with her. We enjoyed ourselves incredibly much. I only care about her, and i do my best using my fingers, tounge and penis. She tells me that i am the best she has had (no bragging intended here). My penis is only a modest 5.5", wich i think is on the small side. She is asian, and has only had asian boyfriends before. I never believed the racial differences in that departement were true though..but..she tells me that my penis is big. I was quite shocked.
When we have sex, if i push myself all the way into her, she said it hurts and gives me a quick slap on the leg or back. This is making me really confused because what is true in this world..really? If you look at pornography you see guys with enourmous penises which, quite frankly, gives me a serious insecurity problem for a while. My penis looks like a toothpick compared to what you can see on movies or pictures. And these guys can put their whole penis into the woman without her giving a grimace or anything???
I am more than happy to be enough for my girlfriend. But sometimes i feel so insecure about myself and my penis due to what you can see on tv,movies or the internet. And let's not forget what you read on the internet. I wish i could have one of those 7-8-9"..maybe i wouldn't feel insecure from time to time. But then again....if my girlfriend says it hurt when i put all of my 5.5" inside her...what good would a 7-8-9" do for me or her? I am really confused about all this, and i was hoping you guys here at the forum would give me your input on these matters. I've been looking into these penile exercises, but i dont know....does it work?
Thanks for your time,
Flompy1
[This message has been edited by Flompy1 (edited 09-13-2002).]
Sponsor
ana_24
09-13-2002, 04:43 PM
OK, is anyone else getting tired of the "I think my penis is too small" insecure posts??? Come on GUYS!!! You are NORMAL! Once and again, anything between 5 and 6 is average!! What you see in porns is NOT natural and NOT average. Plus, every woman's body is made differently, it could be that your girlfriend is petite and that reflects in her vagina as well. I think you guys should all just stop worrying about your penis sizes, especially when you're normal. If you have a 3 inch penis, ok, then ask questions and be insecure but enough with the... "I have a 5.5 inch penis and I think it's too small!" speeches. There's more to life than penis size!
So there! I hope I don't get too much abuse for this, I didn't mean to attack you personally, I just meant this as a reply to men in general.
So there! I hope I don't get too much abuse for this, I didn't mean to attack you personally, I just meant this as a reply to men in general.
Snagglepuss
09-16-2002, 01:19 AM
OMG ana! thank you! i am not the only who thinks that! finally someone on my side thank you!! :D my bf is 6.5 or something like that he told me but i 4got lol and he thinks he's small http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif bugs me so much ahaha but finally theres someone who agrees with me about the stupid "im to small speaches"
Fearless
09-16-2002, 11:40 PM
Hi Flompy,, I will not agree to go about things alongside the two previous posters, my gawdddd girls,, lets mature here.
Flompy, you are fine. You are of average, and lucky to have that. My bf is 6'3 240 and 5". Ive had 8-9-10-11,, ITS ALL IN THE EMOTIONS , THE CAREING, THE LOVING, THE SENSUALITY AND ROMANCE ALONG WITH PASSION THAT GETS ME. Its not the penis size by anymeans. Granted I may get an initial 'high' on the thought, the feel, the look of a large penis, its fantasy, not actuality. Flompy, you seem to be a caring, loving, concerned individual,, THAT is what will take you in life places that will reassure you that 'the woman' in your life will find the most utmost feature of you. Stop worrying, put all the 'negative force' into positives. :wave:
Flompy, you are fine. You are of average, and lucky to have that. My bf is 6'3 240 and 5". Ive had 8-9-10-11,, ITS ALL IN THE EMOTIONS , THE CAREING, THE LOVING, THE SENSUALITY AND ROMANCE ALONG WITH PASSION THAT GETS ME. Its not the penis size by anymeans. Granted I may get an initial 'high' on the thought, the feel, the look of a large penis, its fantasy, not actuality. Flompy, you seem to be a caring, loving, concerned individual,, THAT is what will take you in life places that will reassure you that 'the woman' in your life will find the most utmost feature of you. Stop worrying, put all the 'negative force' into positives. :wave:
lascot
09-17-2002, 02:58 AM
don't worry. for all the anxiety you feel, your girlfriend is possibly having the same feelings about one or another part of her anatomy. your heart is in the right place. that is all you need.
AshLin
09-17-2002, 03:14 PM
Ok I have gone into the size speech with many men, and Flompy, as you well know, you have nothing to worry about. You brought up a valid point though...
How do women in porns take the 7-8-9" no problem, when normal women tell you how painful that would be. Maybe they are just so used to having very large men? I'm not sure. I know for me, if a man was over 6" it was be incredibly painful. My boyfriend now is about 5" (I haven't measured).. and I can definitely feel him and wouldn't want him any longer.
We can't compare ourselves to people on tv, movies, mags, and porns. So many props, and airbrushes are used.. we can never say what is real or not. I mean if I compared myself to every model on tv, I would be miserably depressed.. and feel like a toad, even though I am an attractive woman... i don't fit their standards. Be happy within... and don't care so much about what other people think. Your personality is what will make you attractive or not... so work on that first.
Not the size of the wave, but the motion of the ocean baby.
[This message has been edited by AshLin (edited 09-17-2002).]
How do women in porns take the 7-8-9" no problem, when normal women tell you how painful that would be. Maybe they are just so used to having very large men? I'm not sure. I know for me, if a man was over 6" it was be incredibly painful. My boyfriend now is about 5" (I haven't measured).. and I can definitely feel him and wouldn't want him any longer.
We can't compare ourselves to people on tv, movies, mags, and porns. So many props, and airbrushes are used.. we can never say what is real or not. I mean if I compared myself to every model on tv, I would be miserably depressed.. and feel like a toad, even though I am an attractive woman... i don't fit their standards. Be happy within... and don't care so much about what other people think. Your personality is what will make you attractive or not... so work on that first.
Not the size of the wave, but the motion of the ocean baby.
[This message has been edited by AshLin (edited 09-17-2002).]
gliderguy
09-18-2002, 02:37 PM
Just a thought or two here. Most of these guys in porn are not really huge (some certainly are). They shave their penis to make it appear larger, and wide angle camera lenses do the rest. They've even been known to use prosthetic devices. Also, when you've been with a woman for a length of time, her size will tend to adjust to yours.
gracieathome
09-19-2002, 12:26 AM
And just as mens size varies, so does the length of a womans vagina. If you hit bottom you need to change to a position where you dont penetrate as deeply like woman on her back with her legs together. Experiment .
College Guy 1982
09-21-2002, 10:10 AM
*******
*******
*******
Here is your Problem...
****
They are PORN STARS!!! stop looking at them. and stop comparing yourself to them, and you should start to feel better after a while
**
**
**
keep this in mind..Basket Ball Stars, are Basket Ball stars because, the are unique, they are Taller the common everyday player, they have more of what the Sport requires the the common player, this is why they ARE stars, and why everyone is not in the NBA
----
with this is mind, I would say it's similar in Porn..
so ask your self this, when you watch the NBA, do you get all insecure about yourself cause you have NO CHANCE of measuring up against NBA player? chances are, you don't give it a second thought, you prolly just not even consider, cause ya classify them as not the normal street ball player.. so why do this in porn.. settle down.. and don't watch the porn if it makes ya feel that way
(so there's no confusion, I like porn.. hehehe, but if it makes ya feel bad, don't watch it, hehe)
*******
*******
Here is your Problem...
****
They are PORN STARS!!! stop looking at them. and stop comparing yourself to them, and you should start to feel better after a while
**
**
**
keep this in mind..Basket Ball Stars, are Basket Ball stars because, the are unique, they are Taller the common everyday player, they have more of what the Sport requires the the common player, this is why they ARE stars, and why everyone is not in the NBA
----
with this is mind, I would say it's similar in Porn..
so ask your self this, when you watch the NBA, do you get all insecure about yourself cause you have NO CHANCE of measuring up against NBA player? chances are, you don't give it a second thought, you prolly just not even consider, cause ya classify them as not the normal street ball player.. so why do this in porn.. settle down.. and don't watch the porn if it makes ya feel that way
(so there's no confusion, I like porn.. hehehe, but if it makes ya feel bad, don't watch it, hehe)
sweetindygirl4u
09-25-2002, 11:16 PM
I read somewhere once that in a study on Average African_Americans Are the largest , then Caucasian, then Asians. Don't know the detaisl but that is what the study proved :)
Phaycops
09-28-2002, 06:18 PM
I don't know why you're "bottoming out" on your girlfriend, but try switching positions. My SO and I can't have sex when we're standing and I'm bending over because he bumps my ovaries. Try her on top, or you both lying on your sides and you behind. Good luck.
Oh yeah, people, they're porn stars, not real people. Do you compare your cheekbones with Brad Pitt's?
Oh yeah, people, they're porn stars, not real people. Do you compare your cheekbones with Brad Pitt's?
Hadom79
10-27-2002, 03:44 PM
Insecurities, where are they coming from? Have they always been as numerous as now or is it that we feel more comfortable talking about them? They just seem more numerous with the changing of society, i.e media (news and entertainment)