penny07
09-23-2002, 03:17 PM
hello everyone ok here goes my ex-boyfriend which we have know each other for 18yrs we dating for 7yrs we never got married. im married now to someone else we have remained friends he got married 2yrs ago now hes going though a divorce.me and his wife were friends too but not like me and him were she really did him dirty. We talk on the phone about everything more then we ever did when we were together and yes my husband is fine with it they are friends too.anyways somtimes i want to ask him how he felt about me he never ever told me not that it matters now i guess i just want closer we never married but yet he married this other woman so how did he really feel about me so should i ask him or just die wondering http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dizzy.gif
ps even though this is not a sex question plese respond seems like no one will respond to non-sex questions
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ps even though this is not a sex question plese respond seems like no one will respond to non-sex questions
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star508
09-23-2002, 06:36 PM
It seems like you guys are close friends, so I would just ask. If there was some tension b/w you and him or b/w your husband and him, then it might make things a bit awkward. But since you say you're all friends, then, yea, why not? It's a good question, I'd wanna know! :)
penny07
09-23-2002, 08:06 PM
star thanks for responding doesn't seem like no one else will respond. i guess cause it not a sex question lol yea we are very close friends we have alot of memories together and i think when the time is right i will ask him he's very special to me and i just hope im special to him too thanks again :D
lascot
09-24-2002, 02:28 AM
hi, just thought you might be interested in the Relationship Issues board.
they might be more responsive to you.
my opinion... you don't want to have an affair do you? just wondering. if not, i'd focus on how your spouse feels about you. i think you know that divorce sucks. i know that sounds preachy. i apologize.
BWT
they might be more responsive to you.
my opinion... you don't want to have an affair do you? just wondering. if not, i'd focus on how your spouse feels about you. i think you know that divorce sucks. i know that sounds preachy. i apologize.
BWT
penny07
09-24-2002, 09:35 AM
lascot no i dont want to have affair http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bang.gif i love my husband very much http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/bang.gif
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Fantaseee
09-24-2002, 09:58 AM
it seems to me that if yr interesting in how he felt about you in the past you are really wanting to know how he feels about you now. If you start going down that road i have to agree with the previous poster and say are u interested in starting something with this guy?
Unless im wrong im sure yr the poster who is also interested in maybe having an encounter with another woman. If i was yr husband id be terrified lol
Unless im wrong im sure yr the poster who is also interested in maybe having an encounter with another woman. If i was yr husband id be terrified lol
ana_24
09-24-2002, 11:02 AM
Why did the two of you break up? I would think after 7 years of being together, you would know how he felt about you. If I were you, I would probably just ask him when the time feels right. Just be really casual about it and say that you've always wondered what it was that stopped you from being together. BUT, make sure to mention that you're very happy in your relationship with your husband, yada yada yada but out of curiosity, you'd like to know how he felt about you.
penny07
09-24-2002, 02:59 PM
fantaseee well your right i am curious about being with a woman thats all just curious never will do it and as far as my friend just curious i dont want anything to happend between us you people on here shouldnt be so judgemental this is what the post is all about just asking http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif
penny07
09-24-2002, 03:03 PM
ana thank you for your post we broke for several reasons i broke it off with him he stayed at the bar to much and drank too much so thats why i left him. i doubt that i will ever ask him i know im special to him or we wouldnt still be friends and he knows nothing will ever happen between us again and he knows im happily married :D
ana_24
09-24-2002, 04:13 PM
U know, I'm best friends with an ex boyfriend so I know what you're talking about. Everyone always wonders why we're not together since we're so close anyway but sometimes it just works out that friendship is the best option. It's kind of cool to have a ex as a best friend though.. he can give you a perspective on life and relationships that no one else can. He's the first person I go to with any problems and because he knows me so well and we're so comfortable with each other, he gives me a lot of no nonsense advice. I don't know what I'd do without him! Now if only my boyfriend can get over his jealousy! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif
penny07
09-24-2002, 06:14 PM
ana yea i know what you mean hes a very good friend my husband is not the jealous type at all hes met him and we have all went out now that he and his wife has separted its kinda different i guess doesnt want to be the third party so does your boyfriend know that you dated him? my does and hes ok with it.thanks for sharing your thoughts with me how old are you nd where you from?
rif
09-25-2002, 09:23 AM
Me and my ex-boyfriend were best friends way before we became lovers. I could tell him stuff I never told anyone else, and he wouldn't judge me. Now I am married to someone else, and I miss being able to talk to my ex best friend. I think he regrets losing me, even though it was his fault. I want someone to talk to, and in the past, he was the one I could talk to about my relationships with other guys. He never got judgemental on me. Would it be wrong to talk to him about problems I might have in my marriage? Is it reasonable to expect that my husband might get upset about me discussing our problems with an ex-boyfriend.... even though he was a b/f for about 1/10th of the time he was just a friend (on my part)?
ana_24
09-25-2002, 09:31 AM
Hi Penny! I'm 24 and I'm from Toronto, Canada. I was with my ex for 5 years on and off (1 year break along the way) and we always got back together but now we're finally at the point where we KNOW platonic is where we want to be. And for the first time we're ok with that so there's no other b/s to get in the way of a real friendship. My current boyfriend whom I've been seeing for about 3 months knows about him and says he doesn't have a problem with it but I can tell he does. However, I've warned him from the beginning that him or any other guy I might end up dating is going to have to accept my relationship with my ex because he is my best friend. I was pretty honest right from the get go so that there are no issues later on. So far so good but only time will tell... How old are you? How long have you been married?
Hadom79
10-27-2002, 04:04 PM
Careful now, thats if you want to save your own marriage. Remember the dangers of sharing intimate subjects with a friend of the oppisite sex. Reember thats what most likely caused your husband and you to be close. You can have your friend. But you must set limits, and abide by those. Remember that affairs essentailly (not always though) happen when you only see the good in a person.