lascot
10-07-2002, 04:57 AM
Hi BWT & I are in discord. I have gained approx. 20lbs. related to a health issue. I have gone from a size 8 to a 12 and I think that this is disgusting. I no longer find my body as attractive as it once was. BWT says that's not the case; claims that I am "still sexy". likely story! ;)
OK all... What are your thoughts on a lover with a few extra pounds? Honest... you will not upset me. At what point is there a change in your partner's allure?
LAS
OK all... What are your thoughts on a lover with a few extra pounds? Honest... you will not upset me. At what point is there a change in your partner's allure?
LAS
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Ottawa_guy
10-07-2002, 08:21 AM
I find women who are a little over weight more attractive than women who are under weight.
To qualify this I mean that a woman with curves is much sexier than a woman who has no curves.
But I also find smaller breasts more appealing than larger breasts.
But, my current GF ha gained a lot of weight and I do not find her very appealing and yes the sex has suffered because I no longer find her to turn me on.
So see, everything is from an individual point of view.
On a foot note, the woman who was the best lover I ever had and the woman that I found to be the sexiest I ever knew and the one woman I could wish for just one more night with was a little over weight.
See there is never one simple answer.
To qualify this I mean that a woman with curves is much sexier than a woman who has no curves.
But I also find smaller breasts more appealing than larger breasts.
But, my current GF ha gained a lot of weight and I do not find her very appealing and yes the sex has suffered because I no longer find her to turn me on.
So see, everything is from an individual point of view.
On a foot note, the woman who was the best lover I ever had and the woman that I found to be the sexiest I ever knew and the one woman I could wish for just one more night with was a little over weight.
See there is never one simple answer.
De Lou
10-07-2002, 02:35 PM
HI-
I have had 4 children put on wieght lost it put it back on and back and forth. I had my self pretty skinny after my last child. My hubby said he did not like it at all. Talk about how hard it is to put on 15-20lbs on purpose. I don't know how the actors do it. Anyway I am where he says he likes it. Just never got my butt back.(his joke real funny) And well the chest looks like I have had the 4 kids. So I am not happy with my looks to top it off I was put on all these damn meds morning ones make me not want to eat and then about 10 pm comes and all I want to do is eat. If I go to sleep feeling hungry I wake up at midnight eating like a horse. I know illnesses and meds play dirty tricks on your body. Maybe you can ask if there is something else out there you can take. I know changeing diets does not work sometimes. I feel a person has to feel happy with thier bodies. And sexy comes from with in. The way you feel. And if you act it and feel it then you are home free. But you have to be comfortable with you! There are people out there that are way over weight and feel great about them selves. Some had to learn to be that way.
I don't know if my babbling helped but good luck!!!
:angel:
DE
I have had 4 children put on wieght lost it put it back on and back and forth. I had my self pretty skinny after my last child. My hubby said he did not like it at all. Talk about how hard it is to put on 15-20lbs on purpose. I don't know how the actors do it. Anyway I am where he says he likes it. Just never got my butt back.(his joke real funny) And well the chest looks like I have had the 4 kids. So I am not happy with my looks to top it off I was put on all these damn meds morning ones make me not want to eat and then about 10 pm comes and all I want to do is eat. If I go to sleep feeling hungry I wake up at midnight eating like a horse. I know illnesses and meds play dirty tricks on your body. Maybe you can ask if there is something else out there you can take. I know changeing diets does not work sometimes. I feel a person has to feel happy with thier bodies. And sexy comes from with in. The way you feel. And if you act it and feel it then you are home free. But you have to be comfortable with you! There are people out there that are way over weight and feel great about them selves. Some had to learn to be that way.
I don't know if my babbling helped but good luck!!!
:angel:
DE
Anette0513
10-07-2002, 07:47 PM
Hey!
I myself am not the smallest person in the world, and my boyfriend loves it. He tells me I am the most beautiful thing ever. U know what they say " The more cushion the better pushin" ;) Don't worry about it! I am sure you are a beautiful person with a kind heart, and thats all that matters! :) Good Luck!
~Anette0513
I myself am not the smallest person in the world, and my boyfriend loves it. He tells me I am the most beautiful thing ever. U know what they say " The more cushion the better pushin" ;) Don't worry about it! I am sure you are a beautiful person with a kind heart, and thats all that matters! :) Good Luck!
~Anette0513
wattagirl
10-07-2002, 11:59 PM
i've seen some overweight women that just screamed sexy-and you know why-because they feel sexy-i'm not big and i don't have what some of them have-i always wanted to be one of those really confident women that walk around as if saying-look at me-i'm sexy and i know it
Fantaseee
10-08-2002, 02:32 AM
I agree with most of whats been said. I'm yr typical female, working out to try and be slimmer, never feeling quite slim enough and yet i look at slightly overweight women in the street who are dressed well and obviously confident and i think wow they look good. The thin person wandering past would never make me react like that. Also if i look at porn images its always the women with more flesh on them that make the whole thing look sexier. So i guess what im saying is even though i can see this in reality, in my head i still think i need to be thin. Crazy huh.
chippie
10-08-2002, 12:06 PM
I think that I am overwieght and somedays, i project an image that says "i'm yucky don't look at me" and other days its more like"COME AND GET ME" and it seems like peope respond to me however I feel. Like on a good day, it seems like I get attention from guys even if I am not looking for it but on a bad day i blend into the wallpaper. My guy loves me the way i am so that ok for me
gliderguy
10-09-2002, 12:49 AM
For what it's worth... my criteria are: the thighs must touch somewhere between the knees and the naughty bits (sorry for the Python reference) and the butt must be round. " The bigger the cushion, the smoother the pushin'"(within limits, of course).
AshLin
10-10-2002, 12:37 PM
I agree a lot with Fantasee and Chippie...
I think your attitude plays a huge roll in how sexy you are. Before I lost weight, I got a ton of attention. I have to admit that since I lost the weight, my self esteem has risen, therefore I get quite a bit of attention. But just like chippie said... if I feel down about myself, I basically blend into the wallpaper.
In my opinion, curvy women are the sexiest. I fantasize about curves... I mean who wants to fantasize about a woman who resembles a little boy? Ok we won't go there..
I think your attitude plays a huge roll in how sexy you are. Before I lost weight, I got a ton of attention. I have to admit that since I lost the weight, my self esteem has risen, therefore I get quite a bit of attention. But just like chippie said... if I feel down about myself, I basically blend into the wallpaper.
In my opinion, curvy women are the sexiest. I fantasize about curves... I mean who wants to fantasize about a woman who resembles a little boy? Ok we won't go there..
MelNor
10-10-2002, 02:27 PM
I agree with you AshLin!
I think sexy is all in the mind and the image you project.
I have never been slim but I have never had any problem attracting men either. It's wierd cause it seems to happen the most when your not looking for it or expecting it.
I think many women would be suprised to know that more men are actually unattracted to the low self esteem that usually attached to a women who is feeling bad about her weight than he is unattracted to the extra 20 pounds.
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Never be afraid to try something new.
Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark.
A large group of professionals built the Titanic.
I think sexy is all in the mind and the image you project.
I have never been slim but I have never had any problem attracting men either. It's wierd cause it seems to happen the most when your not looking for it or expecting it.
I think many women would be suprised to know that more men are actually unattracted to the low self esteem that usually attached to a women who is feeling bad about her weight than he is unattracted to the extra 20 pounds.
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Never be afraid to try something new.
Remember that a lone amateur built the Ark.
A large group of professionals built the Titanic.
fluffz
10-13-2002, 05:33 AM
Hi, I hope this doesn't offend anyone. I like a guy in the middle weight-wise. Too thin is uncomfortable and so is plus size. That's just me. There are always exceptions on both sides.
Hadom79
10-27-2002, 03:10 PM
A few extra pounds is sexy indeed!!! Those emanciated women you see in magazines, the bony ones, not so a ppealing. Having a few extra pounds is sexy because it is norman, that is to say natural. The natural body is yummy!! It is so sexy, your boyfriend is right in saying so. The two of you should try using mirrors for a while then see how you value yourself. take pictures and video with him if you feel comfortable, then watch his reaction when he is watching the tape with you!!
Elret
10-27-2002, 04:40 PM
Originally posted by Ottawa_guy:
But, my current GF ha gained a lot of weight and I do not find her very appealing and yes the sex has suffered because I no longer find her to turn me on.
Just out of curiousity, do you think this might be why you have found yourself attracted to your coworker? Also, just wondering how your girlfriend feels about the weight she has gained?
But, my current GF ha gained a lot of weight and I do not find her very appealing and yes the sex has suffered because I no longer find her to turn me on.
Just out of curiousity, do you think this might be why you have found yourself attracted to your coworker? Also, just wondering how your girlfriend feels about the weight she has gained?
Bob swartz
10-28-2002, 12:25 AM
women of all shapes and sizes are attractive.