my husband (he's 56!!!!) has recently been diagnosed with ADD (he's had it all his life, and managed to get by so far), and i'm having trouble dealing with it ... i have health problems myself, but i want to know: how does a person with ADD feel? what are some good medications? he's going to see a psychologist who specialises in this, but in the meantime, what can i do? i feel like he doesn't love me!

i can't get out, so help groups are out for me ...

anything you can tell me would be appreciated ... http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/round.gif

Sounds like my dad, he's the same age and now realizes that he does have it. If he is willing to go and get help great, it's never too late. He could live the rest of his life much happier.

Well I'm sure everyone with AD/HD doesn't feel identical but I personally have the symptoms of cloudy-headed/foggyness feeling, rarely clear-headed (w/o a med), irritable, impulsive, trouble paying attention, constantly day dreaming, hypersensitive senses and emotions, etc. The list goes on.

I am 55 and discovered my ADD about three years ago after feeling totally frustrated at myself. People with ADD are typically bright but without control they can easily be perceived as flakey (did you see the movie "Amadeus" - about Mozart? he was ADD) ADD people can focus when under pressure (or as they say, they "rise to the occasion") unfortunately, left unstimulated or controlled, they go aimlessly from one thing to another. We hate to be told what to do (that's why ADD people are usually self-employed - or unemployed. In school, in my case anyway, I tested high enough to be placed into the high achiever classes but didn't have the patience to finish reading a chapter in the book..... My first suggestion is to read the book "Driven to Distraction" - It took me five years to read it (really!) folks would insist that I read it but each time I picked it up at the book store, I flicked through it and said it didn't apply to me (denial!)Until I literally "hit the wall". Then I read it and discovered that I was not alone. sheesh! It took that many years!. The second thing I suggest is to find the nearest chapter of CHADD (Children and Adults with ADD) and attend a meeting. It is totally anonymous and many folks like you who have questions but no one to turn to will find it a haven of information, help, and understanding. My wife was extremely frustrated by my ADD behavior until I went on this "mission" to cure myself. She read the book and spoke with several other wives and came to a better understanding and appreciation for what we ADD people are. I will pray for your strength and patience in dealing with your spouse. The first step is discovery, the second step is acceptance, the third step is to take the bull by the horn and do something constructive about it. When you are on the right medication, it will be like putting on glasses to help you to see "clearly" - the trick to this is to focus and concentrate on "what you wish to accomplish" while you are of clear mind. Sounds simple, but its not.... it is - a journey. Now that I am on Concerta, I am able to understand, organize, and complete the task at hand. Sometimes I get off track but I am no longer fearful of the ignorance of not knowing "what's wrong with me". Good luck and God bless. Z

thanks to all whose stories helped me ... it may not work out between us, but at least i've told him and he may get help (particularly the child of the dad who had ADD, whose parents separated briefly -- i notice your post is missing now) ...
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If your referring to me I'm actually an adult http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/biggrin.gif and that post is in your second thread.