tijud43j
07-06-2001, 01:37 PM
hi,
well let me just start off saying that i am a 16 year old virgin and my girlfriend and i have been going out a while and we have done everything besides have sex... well just the other night we decided to have sex and my problem seems to be that when i took mine and her cloths off and got on top of her to get ready and stick it in I JUST WENT LIMP and by that i mean it was weird i couldn't get hard at all, she would grab it a bit and i would get like semi, but i couldn't get like a full erection, we tryed for a few minutes... i was so embarassed and i really don't understand it because i have no problem at all during foreplay... what is wrong with me? i have been really upset ever since and i just want to be able to please her, if anyone can please help me out at all it would be much appreciated... what do i do to overcome this? please...
thankyou for your time
well let me just start off saying that i am a 16 year old virgin and my girlfriend and i have been going out a while and we have done everything besides have sex... well just the other night we decided to have sex and my problem seems to be that when i took mine and her cloths off and got on top of her to get ready and stick it in I JUST WENT LIMP and by that i mean it was weird i couldn't get hard at all, she would grab it a bit and i would get like semi, but i couldn't get like a full erection, we tryed for a few minutes... i was so embarassed and i really don't understand it because i have no problem at all during foreplay... what is wrong with me? i have been really upset ever since and i just want to be able to please her, if anyone can please help me out at all it would be much appreciated... what do i do to overcome this? please...
thankyou for your time
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Robert2
07-06-2001, 11:30 PM
The problem is guilt. You have been programmed by parents, school and church to believe that you could ruin your life by having sex before the age of consent. Foreplay and actual sex are two different things.
You have a psychological barrier to overcome. That barrier was given to you for your protection. I strongly suggest that you stick with foreplay before reach the point of no return.
But, since you probably won't listen to that, let's try something else. One of the main barriers that is driven into your head these days is the need for safe sex. If you weren't using a condom, shame on you. You are going to have to get some condoms and practice putting them on until you are used to the way it feel. Yes, that means you have to masturbate a few time until it feels natural to wear a condom.
Next you sit down and write this sentence one hundred times, "I'll will always have safe sex by using a condom." By writing that sentence one hundred time, you are reprograming your brain to see that a condom gives you the freedom to have sex without as much guilt. That should help you overcome your inhibitions.
One last thing. NO ORAL SEX. Wait till you are of consenting age at least. Oral sex spreads disease. Don't risk it at this time.
You have a psychological barrier to overcome. That barrier was given to you for your protection. I strongly suggest that you stick with foreplay before reach the point of no return.
But, since you probably won't listen to that, let's try something else. One of the main barriers that is driven into your head these days is the need for safe sex. If you weren't using a condom, shame on you. You are going to have to get some condoms and practice putting them on until you are used to the way it feel. Yes, that means you have to masturbate a few time until it feels natural to wear a condom.
Next you sit down and write this sentence one hundred times, "I'll will always have safe sex by using a condom." By writing that sentence one hundred time, you are reprograming your brain to see that a condom gives you the freedom to have sex without as much guilt. That should help you overcome your inhibitions.
One last thing. NO ORAL SEX. Wait till you are of consenting age at least. Oral sex spreads disease. Don't risk it at this time.
cutenbrat
07-10-2001, 04:05 PM
You go Robert. I totally agree with you. I decided to wait until my wedding night, whenever that may be. I think you are risking a lot to have sex before this for birth control doesn't always work and there's other things to worry about such as dieases. 16 is so young. Why grow up so fast???? It's not worth it.
God Bless.
God Bless.
diannefritz
08-31-2001, 02:26 PM
Are you diabetic? if not you may want to be checked for it.
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CINDERELLA
09-07-2001, 01:39 AM
I agree with Robert, you are soooooo young, I too was 16 and didnt have much of a clue and am lucky not to have got into trouble. Please be careful for both of your sakes.