Cee
09-02-2001, 01:16 AM
I'm a virgin but when I have sex I plan to have the lights all out. Is that weird? I just think it would be so awkward to have sex with any light at all. Maybe it's because I'm self-concious of my body. Anyone else feel this way?
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Psikilla
09-02-2001, 01:56 AM
Umm...pitch black? Kind of hard.
Perhaps candle light? Or dim lights? Don't worry about being self-concious, nothing is hotter than a very confident lady.
Perhaps candle light? Or dim lights? Don't worry about being self-concious, nothing is hotter than a very confident lady.
Disposition
09-02-2001, 02:50 PM
Ya I agree, it's normal to be a virgin and want the romantic touch sensation, nothing else. But you will find that it would be a bit difficult in pitch-black to have sex. May I agree and suggest simple candle light, or dimlights? Don't be self-concious, it won't be as fun if you are! Just let loose ;)
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Jude29
09-02-2001, 03:27 PM
Speaking as someone who has had sex quite a bit (I'm married not bragging), you really do need some kind of light the first time. Candle light is fine but even after all the years my wife and I have been together we still miscommunicate in bed and someone catches an elbow when we try to do it in complete darkness.
You should probably concentrate on your self image before you worry about how your first time is going to go. You need to understand that if the guy you are with loves you he loves you for who you are not what you look like.
You should probably concentrate on your self image before you worry about how your first time is going to go. You need to understand that if the guy you are with loves you he loves you for who you are not what you look like.
JwhyS
09-02-2001, 08:51 PM
As a guy, I sometimes feel that way, but it is primarily because I am uncut and I'm not a big seven incher, in fact i'm not even 6 inches so that's kind of embarrasing for me. Well, not so much embarassing, just something I'm kinda self-conscious about. However, I am only this way when I think about it. When I'm actually engaged in foreplay and such, my self conscious thought's dont' even cross my mind.
LOSTandCONFUSEDand
09-03-2001, 02:37 AM
lights on!!
i have to. i love to see the facial expressions of my guy its great! it makes everything worthwhile!
i have to. i love to see the facial expressions of my guy its great! it makes everything worthwhile!
kuroneko
09-03-2001, 07:54 PM
Low light is nice and sexy, and can do flattering things for the skin. :D Besides, if the person you're having your first time with really loves you, they'll think you're absolutely gorgeous. :)
Matthew17
09-08-2001, 01:32 PM
Black Lights All the way.
i have some installed in my room. during fourplay it rocks
so i can picture it during sex..
i have some installed in my room. during fourplay it rocks
so i can picture it during sex..
PharmacyMan
09-09-2001, 04:59 PM
Matthew, I think I will buy me some black likes, lol.
I prefer it to be dark, even though I havn't had sex before. Manly for the simple fact that I'm not some well-endowed guy. 5.75 inches here (sometimes 5.5). So I rather not have my stuff in plane view unless it's in the girls mouth... No offense ladies.
I prefer it to be dark, even though I havn't had sex before. Manly for the simple fact that I'm not some well-endowed guy. 5.75 inches here (sometimes 5.5). So I rather not have my stuff in plane view unless it's in the girls mouth... No offense ladies.
whitewolf95
09-09-2001, 09:49 PM
Pharm...you really dont have anythig to worry over. Size truly doesnt matter. Also you are right on the average size so again nothing to worry over.
Black lights are ok but truly seeing the person you are with in low light or full light is truly a turn on. You can see the passion and pleasure on his/her face. You get the full effect of the moment with the person you care about.
Also fumbling in the dark is no fun and tends tot ake away from the passion if you are fumbling with clothes and body parts.
Black lights are ok but truly seeing the person you are with in low light or full light is truly a turn on. You can see the passion and pleasure on his/her face. You get the full effect of the moment with the person you care about.
Also fumbling in the dark is no fun and tends tot ake away from the passion if you are fumbling with clothes and body parts.
zangiff
09-10-2001, 04:17 AM
you need a little light...I remeber the first time I did it I kinda had a hard time going it in tthe hole...but she was very helpful and directed it for me. I think it would have been more enjoyable with some light.
Tennis Baby
10-21-2001, 02:20 PM
Just a little light it good. When it is pitch black you can even find someones lips to kiss em... how are you supossed to have sex? Candlelight would be very sexy... along with some romantic music.
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DivineO
10-22-2001, 02:46 PM
Originally posted by Cee:
I'm a virgin but when I have sex I plan to have the lights all out. Is that weird? I just think it would be so awkward to have sex with any light at all. Maybe it's because I'm self-concious of my body. Anyone else feel this way?
Is there any woman who hasn't felt that way at one time or another? It's taken me a lot of years to get so that I can have sex with the lights on, in the daytime without feeling that I need to cover up my flaws.
But for your first time, you should be comfortable. However, you should also take into consideration the fact that men are very visual and they enjoy seeing their partner during sex. Be sure and work out a compromise with him so that both of you enjoy yourselves.
I'm a virgin but when I have sex I plan to have the lights all out. Is that weird? I just think it would be so awkward to have sex with any light at all. Maybe it's because I'm self-concious of my body. Anyone else feel this way?
Is there any woman who hasn't felt that way at one time or another? It's taken me a lot of years to get so that I can have sex with the lights on, in the daytime without feeling that I need to cover up my flaws.
But for your first time, you should be comfortable. However, you should also take into consideration the fact that men are very visual and they enjoy seeing their partner during sex. Be sure and work out a compromise with him so that both of you enjoy yourselves.
princessmitzoue
10-23-2001, 03:38 PM
I agree with most of the posters here- candle light is great, but I can definitely relate to being self-conscious about being naked. Sometimes candle light is too much, so I drag my man onto a floor below a window & open up the curtains... It's less light than candles, but still (depending on where the moon or street light is positioned on the window) gives a romantic glow to let you see your way around!
Hope this helps! :round:
Hope this helps! :round:
Teri beri
08-14-2002, 06:19 AM
the first time i had sex it was in mid daylight but i kept my shirt on and didnt really let him see much lol but then i got more comfortable with sex and now me and my guy like strip each other and we're jus fine, no embarrassments. but i gatta admit i had sex in pitch black one time it was fun u couldnt see and u had to feel ur way around haha no one caught an elbow but my guy did hit his head on the underside of the table lol (we were on the floor btw) but other than that it was fun i wouldnt mind doing it again :D but u really have to talk to your bf or whoever ur having sex with let him know that ur self conshous (sp lol i totally forgot how to spell that! ) oh well jus be happy with ur body and u'll have fun :D best of luck to you!!
anewhope
08-22-2002, 07:07 AM
Well like everyone says, it's better for some light (candles) and such, rather than pitch black, which takes away from seeing your partners body, which for me is a real turn on.
Although too much light and you might think your in an operating theatre or a stadium with flood lights, so pick something gentle and atmospheric.
Although too much light and you might think your in an operating theatre or a stadium with flood lights, so pick something gentle and atmospheric.
some20
08-24-2002, 05:35 AM
all lights out?? whoa.. that's interesting. well, then, i could imagine anything though...
kama2080
08-24-2002, 12:55 PM
I usually turn on the closet light and crack the door so it's not blinding but you have some light..candles are more romantic but sometimes you're just not in a romantic mood ;)
Woman*of*the*night
10-31-2002, 03:26 AM
I dont know why everyone saying its hard in the dark, if its trying to put it in the hole when you cant see it that your all worrying about, dont worry just get the girl to do it, because after all girls...
Its just like feeding yourself in the dark!
Its just like feeding yourself in the dark!
drewbaby
10-31-2002, 04:12 PM
i feel the same way too, i never had sex b4
and im thinking of doing it in the dark too
i'm self conscious about myself
because my breast r really really small i don't want to show them off
i'm even planning to keep my shirt on too when doing it
when i start lol
and im thinking of doing it in the dark too
i'm self conscious about myself
because my breast r really really small i don't want to show them off
i'm even planning to keep my shirt on too when doing it
when i start lol
Dramaqueen
10-31-2002, 04:56 PM
I don't think this is weird at all. I think its normal to be very self-consious for the first few times. Pitch black is obviously going to be a little hard, but dm lighting where you can see what your doin but not to much would be fine I reckon form the first few times before you get less self-consious.
I'm not sure if your with a partner now, but if you re as you get to know him better things should be easier and you'll feel more confident.
I'm not sure if your with a partner now, but if you re as you get to know him better things should be easier and you'll feel more confident.
already taken
11-07-2002, 06:30 PM
The first time I had sex it was during the day. I was still wearing my shirt and I wasn't really that uncomfortable because my b/f made me feel like the most beautiful girl in world. Then I had sex in the dark and it was much more romantic. But, sex in the morning like at 5:00 or something is the best. He woke me up by kissing me. And it wasn't really bright but, not too dark either. But, I guess my favorite is really dark. I like feeling my way around.
ana_24
11-08-2002, 09:25 AM
I agree that having some light is good but I disagree with those who said it's hard to have sex in the dark. What's so hard about it? Even in the daylight when we have sex and he puts it in, neither him nor I look to see where he's putting it.. it's done instinctually.. plus it magnifies all the senses (except for sight of course).. it's kind of fun to feel your way around and for me a big turn on.. espcially when it's in the middle of the night and he wakes me up.
PiePants
11-09-2002, 12:11 AM
doing it in the dark is for the somewhat experienced. I've done it in near pitch black environment, and it was fun!
checkmate
11-09-2002, 09:19 AM
Thinking back to when I first became sexually active, I guess some things never change. I have always prefered some type of lighting. Being a somewhat visual creature, I receive great pleasure in observing the beautiful female form. I especially like to watch my partners face as she experiences pleasure through sex. Having said that however, please do what YOU feel most comfortable with.
tinkers
11-09-2002, 02:03 PM
The dark is better. If its your first time you may be self-conscious and nervous. The best thing to do is just let nature path its way. You'll be just fine. Be careful and just have fun!
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