me and this guy im "talking" to just started having sex and we dont use protection because it feels better without it. well i feel like hes sleeping around on me now and i told him i wanted to start using protection and he said no.....why is that...???and i know this might be a stupid question but can you get pregnant from pre-ejaculation ...and do guys ever cum without knowing their about to???thanks for any replys!
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yes you can get pregnant that way please use a condom plus you can get a std

You need to seriously use condoms, not only to prevent pregnacy but to also prevent STDs. It feels better yeah, but it sure as hell ain't worth dying over(or the myriad of other possibilities). Tell him no protection=no sex. Period- no arguing. Both of you are being irresponsible, and if your acts aren't cleaned up you will both pay the price- a hell of a lot more than it will ever be worth.
Be smart, and start using protection EVERY SINGLE TIME.

Also, don't go against your gut feeling. If he is not using protection with you and has made it known that he doesn't want to, he sure as hell isn't using it with anyone else he may be sleeping around with.
For everyone you sleep with, you're basically sleeping with everyone they slept with.
Some STDs are incurable, cause infertility, and some don't even have any warning signs or clues that they are living in your system. Please be safe and educate yourself. You deserve it.

Forgot the questions. Yes you can get pregnant from pre cum. Guys can lose control and not be able to pull out fast enough. So yes, orgasms can somewhat sneak up and be uncontrollable. Certainly a teenager would have a harder time controlling it.

[This message has been edited by DanaJ (edited 05-19-2003).]

Yes, I'll agree, having sex without a condom feels MUCH better. But in the end, is it worth the risk of becoming pregnant or getting an STD? Not hardly. I admire that you have told him it's time to use condoms - and if he won't listen, don't fall for the statement "a guy always wins the battle". Tell him no unless he wraps it up. If not, eventually, almost positively, you will become pregnant at some point if you continue to have unprotected sex. Then, I guarentee, even if he doesn't admit it to you, he'll punish himself everyday with the fact that he chose to be irresponsible and not use condoms. As for a guy cumming without his knowledge, I've heard of, but I don't think it's common as a guy, of course, anticipates ejaculating, therefore knows when he is about to or has. Hope this helps and wrap it up. Save unprotected sex for your husband, when you can fully support a child if you were to get pregnant. Take care.

I also thought that having sex without a condom felt better! Becoming pregnant and giving birth to a child during a forceps delivery... not so great!

I'm not trying to preach. Just want to let you know that, yes, you can become pregnant!

If he refuses to wear a condom, refuse to have sex with him. That simple.