collegegrl
07-09-2003, 08:21 PM
hi, i'm so scared at this moment-please help! i'm about to be a college senior and i've been living the past 3 years real carefree and pretty much stupid now 'cuz i'm freaking out about this. i've had unprotected sex a couple times but i'm almost positive that the guys always pulled out before they were done. about a month ago my doctor told me i have genital warts-it's really not a bad case, just a couple. i was devastated but i've been working out alot and building up my immune system hoping they'll go away on their own. they still are there, although they haven't spread, but i'll probably get them removed. what i'm scared about now is that i have a few red bumps on the inside of my mouth. i noticed them like a week or so ago. i've been gargling with saltwater and it seems to be helping. i read somewhere that sometimes a white tongue or something will appear with a genital warts infection. this is the ONLY other sign i have but because i've been freaking out so much lately about std's, i'm scared it's something else, although i'm praying it's all in my head and just a part of the hpv thing. they dont really itch or anything, they're just there. i'm absolutly terrified to get tested though and i want your opinion because i dont want to tell anyone i know. thanks!
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livenlearn
07-10-2003, 12:27 PM
hi there... i know how you're feeling about all of a sudden realizing the things you've been doing are incredibly stupid.... i've been there... BUT, can't change the past, only can change the future... so, with that said, i think its necessary for you to have your doctor screen you for ALL std's... what's in your mouth probably isn't anything you think it is.. but, worth getting checked... although noone knows about this...and can continue to not know.. your doctor already does... they take an oath and your privacy is as important to them as it is to you... talk to him... explain your worries, and ASK specifically to be screened for all std's, and make sure he knows about the concerns you have about the sores in your mouth.... you'll feel much better about it... even if it does turn out to be something you don't want... knowing is better than not knowing...
hope everything turns out well for you!!! please be more careful with yourself in the future.. i know it took me a hard and painful lesson to finally learn... noone is more important to you than you.... keep telling yourself that until you believe it... promiscuous and unprotected sex stems from deep within you not thinking your worthy (it was for me anyway)
just get checked and be careful
hope everything turns out well for you!!! please be more careful with yourself in the future.. i know it took me a hard and painful lesson to finally learn... noone is more important to you than you.... keep telling yourself that until you believe it... promiscuous and unprotected sex stems from deep within you not thinking your worthy (it was for me anyway)
just get checked and be careful
collegegrl
07-12-2003, 11:59 PM
hey thanks. i've been checked for chlamidia and gonorhea before but maybe i should check again. my friend is gonna take me to get tested for the other stuff. i'm terrified tho cuz i think thinking about it is making up symptoms. the red bumps in my mouth are gone but sometimes my lips burn and my throat hurts. i'm hoping that if those bumps were serious they would've stayed longer so maybe since they'er gone it wasnt anything to be worried about. but i'm scared to get my hopes up cuz i can just see getting a positive hiv test and then wanting to die. i'm done with that promiscuous stuff, i have to be. this is the worst feeling i've ever had and it's so not worth it cuz those guys dont care. i hope u're ok too. i honestly cant explain if i did that stuff for a cheap and easy thrill or what. but i know it's not worth it...i'd rather be healthy and not hook up than have one fun night and ruin the rest of my life--at least that's what i've finally come to realize. thanks for being there and good luck with everything. be safe!
zangiff
07-14-2003, 10:48 PM
Just to be let known pulling out is not an effective method to prevent std or pregancy. You can get it at anytime during sex...sorry to scare you but I am in the same boat myself, little worried right now.
collegegrl
07-14-2003, 11:39 PM
yeah i know pulling out isant completly effective but it reduces the risks alot for things like pregnancy and stds u can get by mixing bodily fluids like hiv and stuff, right? it's hope at least. obviously it probably doesnt have much effect on herpes and skin-to-skin stuff i know. hope things work out with u. u're not alone, i'm scared too.
normorcrazy
07-15-2003, 12:31 PM
Actually, do to pre-ejaculation there is still a great chance for pregnancy and STDs. Also, using a condom doesn't always protect you against herpes or genital warts...if they have their outbreak in spots other than where the condom covers. Try not to worry, just let the doctor exam you and determine what's going on. Take care and keep us posted!!
collegegrl
07-16-2003, 06:14 PM
ok i'm gonna get the warts removed in a week and i'm hoping that they go real fast because i cant afford too much of this. i'm the perfect example of a broke college student and i can't tell my parents. i was wondering if anyone who has hpv has told anyone they have it-i mean other than ur partner or anything. this board and praying has been my only support because i'm kinda ashamed to tell anyone about this. and if u did tell them how do people take it? i dont know anyone with an std and i dont want it to spread that i'm "dirty" or whatever. but have any friends told u they have it? i know a couple of my best friends would be so amazingly supportive but part of me really wants to keep this to myself because i dont want people telling me i had it coming or something. any one with experience about this??
livenlearn
07-17-2003, 02:47 PM
do what you feel comfortable doing... while i was going thru the process of getting cured, i didn't tell a soul... (other than the person that gave it to me)... other than that ...noone knew... i also was pregnant at the same time, and ended up having an abortion.. (this by the same guy that gave me the std)... so noone knew about that either... however, after the ordeal... there were a few friends i told... they were more sympathetic then judgemental... i could tell they felt my pain... there was one friend that i haven't heard from since the day i told her... its a shame cause we were very close for about 15 years... she has a very controlling husband, and i feel she ended up telling him and he forbade her to ever talk to me again... that hurt... but, i'm not sorry i told her either....
there's still plenty of people that don't know what i went thru... and there's some that do... its all a matter of how you feel about telling them... it was a nice relief telling a couple friends about it, because they were VERY supportive.... which i needed...
take care
there's still plenty of people that don't know what i went thru... and there's some that do... its all a matter of how you feel about telling them... it was a nice relief telling a couple friends about it, because they were VERY supportive.... which i needed...
take care
normorcrazy
07-18-2003, 01:04 PM
My personal opinion would be keep it to yourself. My friend is HIV + and when her and another one of our friends had a disagreement she shared it with everyone. When people get mad at you, even for the smallest things, you never know what they will do or say. Use your best judgement if you do tell someone. Take care.
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collegegrl
07-18-2003, 01:27 PM
so do u always have to feel like u have a dirty secret? and then how would u tell somebody u were gonna be with then because what if u were to break up? and guys talk so i'm assuming they'd tell their friends and ask their opinions and stuff. i'm sorry, i just feel like i'm too scared to even try anything because i dont want to get hurt. has anyone ever been with someone and not told? i guess it's not all too bad for guys. i just hate feeling dirty and like i have this huge secret that will prevent me from ever finding anything because i would hate it too much to tell them-i really dont even want to try. any experiences?? i feel like a huge part of my life is over:/
jules1
07-18-2003, 01:41 PM
I found out I had hpv and told one of my good friends, turns out she has it too. ALOT of people have hpv. I wouldn't wear a t-shirt saying "i've got hpv" on it, but I wouldn't be ashamed or feel dirty. I did when I first found out, but once I realized the statistics, its not a big deal.
technokitty
07-19-2003, 03:01 PM
well i have hpv..ive had it for a year that ive known about...i told my best friend and she was very supportive..ne ways you have to tell you future partner about it..i wouldnt want anyone to go through what ive been through..it isnt tht hard..most ppl are understanding and will still be interesting in you in a relationship..you just have to be honest...i use to sleep around alot because i was depressed..i thought it would make me feel better...i thought it might make someone love me..but i was wrong..they were all losers..you just have to respect yourself and know that you are better than that..i went without sex for 5 month and then messed up again...but i got up the courage to tell that guy that i wasnt interested in having sex with him anymore that i just couldnt do it because it wasnt me anymore..so im waiting til i have someone who love me before i ever do it again because i want it to be special..none of the times i ever had sex were special..just made me feel dirty and depressed afterwards..
collegegrl
07-19-2003, 09:27 PM
yeah i dont know. i slept around because i just like to have fun and see what happens from there. not that i'm gonna keep doing that, but that's still always gonna be my personality. i'm not really someone who looks for serious stuff or expresses alot of emotions or anything. how am i supposed to know if the next guy is gonna be around a long time or if we're just gonna see what happens then why would he even want to take the risk? i'm kinda at a loss and feel kinda hopeless right now because i'd also feel bad giving this to someone else without him knowing if it did turn into something. so i dont know what to do:/ it's definatly been a wake up call but i wish i could have gotten it some other way because i'm not really looking forward to the future right now. sorry but i'm getting the courage up to tell my best friend at the right time and i just needed to vent a little:/ thanks for the responses
collegegrl
07-19-2003, 09:40 PM
sorry, one more thing is i guess i'm scared i dont think i'll be able to have like a healthy dating life or anything ever that will be fun because of this stupid virus. people break up and i dont know how many guys would be wanting to risk getting this from me if we were to break up because i'm not even out of college. guys what do u think? and if sooo many people have it how come no one talks about it? if it's not that bad for most then why is it such a big deal? :/
Mystery_00
07-21-2003, 05:58 PM
warts are very common (i worked at the state health dept...seen 15 cases a week). the virus never leaves,and you will probably have more outbreaks throughout your life. NO birthcontrol method will prevent you from getting/spreading them except for abstinence. Not having a outbreak while having sex with a man (and using a condom) will help him not to get them.
I believe you need to start being honest with current partners. and i think you should think about WHY you have had different sexual partners. im not being judgmental, but honestly chica, your body has got to last you the rest of your life! and most people take better care of their CAR then they do their own bodies. heck, we dont let strangers run take our car for a spin, why do we let them use our bodies?
do a search on genital warts on the internet. and make sure that you are in getting them taken off each time you have an outbreak, cause they spread, and trust me...they get ugly when not taken care of. had a girl come in to get hers burnt off. they were soooo bad by the time she finally got the nerve to do it, she had to go to a gyn. to get surgery to take them off.
does the college have a nurse dept to get them treated? what about your state health dept?
its like the other poster said, 'you cant change the past, but you can the future'. just be fortunate it was only warts..it couldve been much worse.
I believe you need to start being honest with current partners. and i think you should think about WHY you have had different sexual partners. im not being judgmental, but honestly chica, your body has got to last you the rest of your life! and most people take better care of their CAR then they do their own bodies. heck, we dont let strangers run take our car for a spin, why do we let them use our bodies?
do a search on genital warts on the internet. and make sure that you are in getting them taken off each time you have an outbreak, cause they spread, and trust me...they get ugly when not taken care of. had a girl come in to get hers burnt off. they were soooo bad by the time she finally got the nerve to do it, she had to go to a gyn. to get surgery to take them off.
does the college have a nurse dept to get them treated? what about your state health dept?
its like the other poster said, 'you cant change the past, but you can the future'. just be fortunate it was only warts..it couldve been much worse.