bounce
03-30-2003, 07:27 PM
hey you two,
not seen a post from you to in a long time does that mean things are good and you are out enjoying life or are you layed up in pain
i posted awhile ago that i had my last check up with surgeon and i have healed so im pleased with that and also i can go to try anything i want with caution of course so i might be back to milking those cows yet??
i still have pain days but try to stay away from the pain killers the weather here on nz is changeable somedays warm overs cold and damp and dont i know it
i had a bad cold and it was first thought it was flu as i was in pain my back ribs and coughing made it worst and the sneezing well that was followed with bad lanugue
so hope you post to let us know how it is with you for now takecare
Bounce http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/blob_fire.gif
not seen a post from you to in a long time does that mean things are good and you are out enjoying life or are you layed up in pain
i posted awhile ago that i had my last check up with surgeon and i have healed so im pleased with that and also i can go to try anything i want with caution of course so i might be back to milking those cows yet??
i still have pain days but try to stay away from the pain killers the weather here on nz is changeable somedays warm overs cold and damp and dont i know it
i had a bad cold and it was first thought it was flu as i was in pain my back ribs and coughing made it worst and the sneezing well that was followed with bad lanugue
so hope you post to let us know how it is with you for now takecare
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nanna02
03-31-2003, 07:37 AM
Hi Bounce ! :wave:
Sorry it's not Shizzy or Oliver , but you'll remember me I guess .. I just couldn't resist saying I can see you're still bouncing along !! Wish I was !!.. :(
I'm going Back on Wednesday to see my N/Surgeon as my legs are not going hardly at all.. and I can't walk up the steep path , so I'm scared to go anywhere !.. see what he comes up with . I am assuming I'll end up in Rehab or hospital for tests ; Who knows ?
I'm going to lose it shortly between being on my own here 24/7, and my husband not accepting what's happening with me , physically. .. He says/thinks he IS, but underneath he's not .
It's such a stress on him, he needs to get counselling , as I've said in the past , but he won't do anything about it ...Brings it out on me.. My sister is now helping to support me morally, as much as possible,but I'm nearly going to lose it soon, so they'd better get me some proper help to deal with Him !
Well, it's been a bad few days , I know the sun will shine again soon, so Thanks for letting me say how I feel .
Hope You are managing ok, apart from the Flu and the Weather etc.?
Love Belle :)xxx
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Sorry it's not Shizzy or Oliver , but you'll remember me I guess .. I just couldn't resist saying I can see you're still bouncing along !! Wish I was !!.. :(
I'm going Back on Wednesday to see my N/Surgeon as my legs are not going hardly at all.. and I can't walk up the steep path , so I'm scared to go anywhere !.. see what he comes up with . I am assuming I'll end up in Rehab or hospital for tests ; Who knows ?
I'm going to lose it shortly between being on my own here 24/7, and my husband not accepting what's happening with me , physically. .. He says/thinks he IS, but underneath he's not .
It's such a stress on him, he needs to get counselling , as I've said in the past , but he won't do anything about it ...Brings it out on me.. My sister is now helping to support me morally, as much as possible,but I'm nearly going to lose it soon, so they'd better get me some proper help to deal with Him !
Well, it's been a bad few days , I know the sun will shine again soon, so Thanks for letting me say how I feel .
Hope You are managing ok, apart from the Flu and the Weather etc.?
Love Belle :)xxx
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melanie dawn
03-31-2003, 12:34 PM
Hi Belle,
I just read your post, and I feel so sad for you. Pain and disfunction are so isolating arn't they. It's like you stop being part of the world and enter a different realm. It is such a lonely place to be. Thank goodness for these boards, where we can find true understanding.
You have been through so much, with strength , and courage,, and still not lost your humour. ANd of course you're right about our partners, they try to understand, but i don't think they really can. Councilling would be really beneficial, but alot of men are programmed to keep everything in. I know , my hubby is the same, we did go to councelor at one point, but he never said a word when we were there. Made it kind of pointless. But saying all of that, they are still there for us.
please try to keep your spirits up, and I know it is hard to do. Has your Dr. tried an antidepressant for you? Sometimes we need that little bit of help.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, I hope you get some help and answers too.
http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/love1.gif Mel
I just read your post, and I feel so sad for you. Pain and disfunction are so isolating arn't they. It's like you stop being part of the world and enter a different realm. It is such a lonely place to be. Thank goodness for these boards, where we can find true understanding.
You have been through so much, with strength , and courage,, and still not lost your humour. ANd of course you're right about our partners, they try to understand, but i don't think they really can. Councilling would be really beneficial, but alot of men are programmed to keep everything in. I know , my hubby is the same, we did go to councelor at one point, but he never said a word when we were there. Made it kind of pointless. But saying all of that, they are still there for us.
please try to keep your spirits up, and I know it is hard to do. Has your Dr. tried an antidepressant for you? Sometimes we need that little bit of help.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, I hope you get some help and answers too.
http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/love1.gif Mel
bounce
04-01-2003, 05:32 PM
hey belle,
yes i remember you i have been following youre post youre having a rough ride family can be hurtfull when you need them the most
my hubby suffered with what i went thourgh coz he was going through it with me and i acknowledged that, my asking him like you to your hubby to go to his doc and eventaully he did, men they like to bottle things up and think they can do it and get through it all.
its hard for them to see us their loved ones in pain and they can not help
it is also tuff on us when we see them suffering and try to help them with no willingness on there side
give him time does he have a male friend that he talks to he might open up to him my hubby talked alot with a friend it bugged me first coz he wasnt sharing it with me but then i thought well at least he talking about it
good luck and i will continue to follow your posts and i hope you find some relief soon
takecare bounce http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/blob_fire.gif
yes i remember you i have been following youre post youre having a rough ride family can be hurtfull when you need them the most
my hubby suffered with what i went thourgh coz he was going through it with me and i acknowledged that, my asking him like you to your hubby to go to his doc and eventaully he did, men they like to bottle things up and think they can do it and get through it all.
its hard for them to see us their loved ones in pain and they can not help
it is also tuff on us when we see them suffering and try to help them with no willingness on there side
give him time does he have a male friend that he talks to he might open up to him my hubby talked alot with a friend it bugged me first coz he wasnt sharing it with me but then i thought well at least he talking about it
good luck and i will continue to follow your posts and i hope you find some relief soon
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winged phantom
04-01-2003, 06:43 PM
Belle, I was in a store yesterday when all of a sudden I became aware of the song they were playing. Then I immediately thought of you:
"I get knocked down, but I get up again; You're never going to keep me down" http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/gabby.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/blob_fire.gif
(With apologies: Tubthumping - Chumbawamba) One site even plays the music! Just keep singin' it! I think we should all adopt this as our theme song. At least it's catchy and uplifting.
Have a good day. Thinking of you,
wr :wave:
"I get knocked down, but I get up again; You're never going to keep me down" http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/gabby.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/dance.gif http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/blob_fire.gif
(With apologies: Tubthumping - Chumbawamba) One site even plays the music! Just keep singin' it! I think we should all adopt this as our theme song. At least it's catchy and uplifting.
Have a good day. Thinking of you,
wr :wave:
nanna02
04-02-2003, 02:00 PM
Hi Bounce and Mel and All ! :wave:
It is so nice to see someone is thinking of me .. I feel so selfish at times , engrossed with myself , but my situation has just got WORSE again today !
Went to the N/Surgeon, and he was REALLY nice , very understanding !.. which, out of anyone thru all this , I have to say, my surgery post op problems must've tried his patience to the limit .. SO, he has decided my not walking could be attributed to extreme Muscle Spasm from the Spinal Damage .. Spasm is always there , getting Tests done , etc , as well as sending me to Rehab assessment soon,, ok.. That was all fine .. Felt a lot happier about the outcome .. THEN..
When we get home , here's a letter from Work & Income saying I'm not entitled to A Disability Allowance to Supplement our Income for Help with Prescriptions, St Johns' Medical Safety Alarm, Dr's Visits,.. or ANYTHING!
NOTHING for people with A Disability ?? that stinks ! .. I don't get home Help, not showering , not Shopping Help,....
That is the END!.
I lost my job 3 years ago due to my eyesight failing for a while due to Medication, , now my 3 ops over 3 years put paid to any other employment .. I'm not qualified in any Tertiary Education etc..
My husband works of course , but just for Wages now..
We used to have the "one -man -band-" business where I worked at home for him, but it's all changed .. We don't get Income ourselves from it, ..I'm wondering if W&Inc. have made a mistake working it all out ?
Oh WHY is this all happening to me ????!
I'm just sick of all this ,..
He told me to give back the Medical Alarm as it costs $20 week,!! ..
I need more than 2 hours cleaning help with the housework , but he won't let me ..$25 for 2 hours ..
Even some help with prescriptions and the Med Alarm would've been appreciated .. I feel I'm having to beg now, for everything I need , and I feel degraded .
I'll phone W&Inc. today and try and find out if a mistake , but I doubt it.. Then what ?..
"Kick a Horse when it's down ", seems to be the norm with me at the moment .. :( :(
I got out of bed at 2 am this morning after my husband woke up and started arguing, .. So I came on here !!
It's now 5.47 am, will go back to bed , it's freezing here ..& try to get warm again..
Thanks for letting me say all this .. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif
and for All your kind thought s Mel and Bounce .. Love belle xxxx
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It is so nice to see someone is thinking of me .. I feel so selfish at times , engrossed with myself , but my situation has just got WORSE again today !
Went to the N/Surgeon, and he was REALLY nice , very understanding !.. which, out of anyone thru all this , I have to say, my surgery post op problems must've tried his patience to the limit .. SO, he has decided my not walking could be attributed to extreme Muscle Spasm from the Spinal Damage .. Spasm is always there , getting Tests done , etc , as well as sending me to Rehab assessment soon,, ok.. That was all fine .. Felt a lot happier about the outcome .. THEN..
When we get home , here's a letter from Work & Income saying I'm not entitled to A Disability Allowance to Supplement our Income for Help with Prescriptions, St Johns' Medical Safety Alarm, Dr's Visits,.. or ANYTHING!
NOTHING for people with A Disability ?? that stinks ! .. I don't get home Help, not showering , not Shopping Help,....
That is the END!.
I lost my job 3 years ago due to my eyesight failing for a while due to Medication, , now my 3 ops over 3 years put paid to any other employment .. I'm not qualified in any Tertiary Education etc..
My husband works of course , but just for Wages now..
We used to have the "one -man -band-" business where I worked at home for him, but it's all changed .. We don't get Income ourselves from it, ..I'm wondering if W&Inc. have made a mistake working it all out ?
Oh WHY is this all happening to me ????!
I'm just sick of all this ,..
He told me to give back the Medical Alarm as it costs $20 week,!! ..
I need more than 2 hours cleaning help with the housework , but he won't let me ..$25 for 2 hours ..
Even some help with prescriptions and the Med Alarm would've been appreciated .. I feel I'm having to beg now, for everything I need , and I feel degraded .
I'll phone W&Inc. today and try and find out if a mistake , but I doubt it.. Then what ?..
"Kick a Horse when it's down ", seems to be the norm with me at the moment .. :( :(
I got out of bed at 2 am this morning after my husband woke up and started arguing, .. So I came on here !!
It's now 5.47 am, will go back to bed , it's freezing here ..& try to get warm again..
Thanks for letting me say all this .. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif
and for All your kind thought s Mel and Bounce .. Love belle xxxx
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nanna02
04-02-2003, 02:10 PM
Hey I just realized , I never replied about the Anti depressant .. I have Diazepam which is a muscle relaxant for spasms , but also for anxiety , I don't use them hardly at all but the N/S told me to take one . 2 mg only every night , to help spasms, which I will , to help. but I'm determined these problems are not going to make me so depressed if I can do any thing about it , I tell you !
So thanks for your help.
Also, WR , That was SO nice you thought of me in that store and the music .. That was really special , Thank You xxx
Love .. Belle http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif xxx
So thanks for your help.
Also, WR , That was SO nice you thought of me in that store and the music .. That was really special , Thank You xxx
Love .. Belle http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif xxx
bounce
04-03-2003, 12:55 AM
belle,
ok here goes your not having any fun are you well i know waht you mean about winz i also went down that line and i was told coz my hubby worked and earned what ever it was not much i was not entitled to anything that pissed me as im my own person but never mind it makes you wonder how some of these other people in our country can get some much but to look at them nothing is wrong it gets my hackles up to and im sure ther are heaps of others that feel the same
but one thing i do remember that yours is not an accident but it most definatly is a medical misadventure and you should be intitled to acc under that it was not your fault that they take out the wrong thing please lok in to it as i coz it was an accident im able to get travel prescription costs dicounted doc vists and homehelp and you are worse than me please remember i know it was not an accident but you moust be able to apply under medical misadventure then you would be able to get the help you deserve require and need
i wishi could do somithng to help i know i have been through it trying to see what i was entitled to and i left no stone unturned nobody is forthcoming with infromation and you need to dig for it i have had many an arguement with our goverment departments good luck belle and i hope somthing turns out for you
another bit of advice try get a social worker involved let them do your fighting you have enough on your plate and itsanother voice helping you i had a great team my gp surgeon counselor and social worker through the public hospital they helped no end and fought for me when i didnt have the energy or nobody was listening to me
its hard and it does make you feel like your a waste of space ive felt like that for so long my hubby gets angry at me if i say that though so i have but i still fell it sorry if this is long and upsetting it is not supposed to be i just wish you had the help
i best go takecare bounce http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/blob_fire.gif
ok here goes your not having any fun are you well i know waht you mean about winz i also went down that line and i was told coz my hubby worked and earned what ever it was not much i was not entitled to anything that pissed me as im my own person but never mind it makes you wonder how some of these other people in our country can get some much but to look at them nothing is wrong it gets my hackles up to and im sure ther are heaps of others that feel the same
but one thing i do remember that yours is not an accident but it most definatly is a medical misadventure and you should be intitled to acc under that it was not your fault that they take out the wrong thing please lok in to it as i coz it was an accident im able to get travel prescription costs dicounted doc vists and homehelp and you are worse than me please remember i know it was not an accident but you moust be able to apply under medical misadventure then you would be able to get the help you deserve require and need
i wishi could do somithng to help i know i have been through it trying to see what i was entitled to and i left no stone unturned nobody is forthcoming with infromation and you need to dig for it i have had many an arguement with our goverment departments good luck belle and i hope somthing turns out for you
another bit of advice try get a social worker involved let them do your fighting you have enough on your plate and itsanother voice helping you i had a great team my gp surgeon counselor and social worker through the public hospital they helped no end and fought for me when i didnt have the energy or nobody was listening to me
its hard and it does make you feel like your a waste of space ive felt like that for so long my hubby gets angry at me if i say that though so i have but i still fell it sorry if this is long and upsetting it is not supposed to be i just wish you had the help
i best go takecare bounce http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/blob_fire.gif
OLIVER-DOVE
04-05-2003, 04:18 AM
Hey Guys,
Haven't felt up to looking in for awhile. I still am having considerable pain and they continue to work on the medications. The W/c Insurance Co. had me go to a doctor who handles pain and P/t. But they refuse to do anything she has reccommended. I guess it has something to do with my settlement date of MAY 1st. The think one of two things will happen One postpone the settlement and fight for immediate coverage for the regiment reccommended by the new Doctor. OR Second go for the final settle hoping I will go away after that. I will go for the final settlement and after that file for the new treatment. This way I can pay for the treatment and latter get all the money back.
The major thing on my mind right now is that my family GP called me to come go over some of my blood test results. It seems I have a baterial infection which attacks the stomach and pancreas, as well as the intestinal track. The two words thrown around were Ulcer and Cancer. By my readings since the levels are so high if it only an Ulcer I have something else to blame the Insurance company for the joy they have given me for the past three years. If it is the cancer I will not have a lot of time to go with it. I had always thought the upset stomach was due to the medications. So I knew something was wrong. Right now it has left me a little down but I will fight it as much as realistically possible. I get to see the specialist on tuesday. That is a pretty quick turnaround so it must be serious. Especially when your own doctor you have had for over 15 years has trouble looking me in the eye.
For those who know me I will fight the hard fight without losing my dignaty. I will keep you informed.
Oliver :wave:
Haven't felt up to looking in for awhile. I still am having considerable pain and they continue to work on the medications. The W/c Insurance Co. had me go to a doctor who handles pain and P/t. But they refuse to do anything she has reccommended. I guess it has something to do with my settlement date of MAY 1st. The think one of two things will happen One postpone the settlement and fight for immediate coverage for the regiment reccommended by the new Doctor. OR Second go for the final settle hoping I will go away after that. I will go for the final settlement and after that file for the new treatment. This way I can pay for the treatment and latter get all the money back.
The major thing on my mind right now is that my family GP called me to come go over some of my blood test results. It seems I have a baterial infection which attacks the stomach and pancreas, as well as the intestinal track. The two words thrown around were Ulcer and Cancer. By my readings since the levels are so high if it only an Ulcer I have something else to blame the Insurance company for the joy they have given me for the past three years. If it is the cancer I will not have a lot of time to go with it. I had always thought the upset stomach was due to the medications. So I knew something was wrong. Right now it has left me a little down but I will fight it as much as realistically possible. I get to see the specialist on tuesday. That is a pretty quick turnaround so it must be serious. Especially when your own doctor you have had for over 15 years has trouble looking me in the eye.
For those who know me I will fight the hard fight without losing my dignaty. I will keep you informed.
Oliver :wave:
nanna02
04-05-2003, 05:13 AM
Hi There Dear Oliver , and Friends ! http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif
It's nice to see you came on here Oliver, but sorry to see things have still not resolved for you yet !.. 1st May seems to be the Big Day for You..
Well we will All wish You LUCK and hope to hear how it goes? :)
I'm not doing too great either , but I'm so Lucky to have lovely Friends on here such as Bounce , Mel and All keeping my spirits up,..
Hope we can do the Same for you eh?
Take care Oliver .. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif THinking of You ..
Love Belle :) xxx
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It's nice to see you came on here Oliver, but sorry to see things have still not resolved for you yet !.. 1st May seems to be the Big Day for You..
Well we will All wish You LUCK and hope to hear how it goes? :)
I'm not doing too great either , but I'm so Lucky to have lovely Friends on here such as Bounce , Mel and All keeping my spirits up,..
Hope we can do the Same for you eh?
Take care Oliver .. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/heart.gif THinking of You ..
Love Belle :) xxx
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bounce
04-07-2003, 08:08 PM
just bumping it back up so shizzy sees it