snoopy77
10-27-2002, 07:08 PM
My wife and I are newly married. She had sexual intercourse for the first time during our honeymoon. We used condoms coated with spermicidal lubricant. We also applied KY spermicide inside of her as a complement.
The first night, intercourse was painful for her due to a lack of foreplay. In subsequent nights, intercourse has not been painful for her and she had orgasms during intercourse.
However, the post-sex experience has been very unpleasant for her. The spermicidal gel discharges from her vagina the whole next day. As well, the water-based gel seems to keep her panties (and her labia) moist. She uses panty liners to absorb the gel discharge but her labia still feels irritated. Sometimes, she feels itchy or sore. The irritated vaginal labia has really caused her to dislike having sex.
We are wondering whether she is allergic to the spermicide nonoxynol-9. We have read about this on the Internet. We have read that nonoxynol-9 can cause irritation.
Are there couples out there who have used condoms and spermicide together?
What have your sexual and post-sex experiences been like?
Did your labia feel sore or irritated after sex?
Is there an alternative spermicide besides nonoxynol-9?
Is there an alternative complement to the condom ie. condom and whatever instead of condom and spermicide?
Thanks for any insights you may provide. You may email us directly.
snoopy77
The first night, intercourse was painful for her due to a lack of foreplay. In subsequent nights, intercourse has not been painful for her and she had orgasms during intercourse.
However, the post-sex experience has been very unpleasant for her. The spermicidal gel discharges from her vagina the whole next day. As well, the water-based gel seems to keep her panties (and her labia) moist. She uses panty liners to absorb the gel discharge but her labia still feels irritated. Sometimes, she feels itchy or sore. The irritated vaginal labia has really caused her to dislike having sex.
We are wondering whether she is allergic to the spermicide nonoxynol-9. We have read about this on the Internet. We have read that nonoxynol-9 can cause irritation.
Are there couples out there who have used condoms and spermicide together?
What have your sexual and post-sex experiences been like?
Did your labia feel sore or irritated after sex?
Is there an alternative spermicide besides nonoxynol-9?
Is there an alternative complement to the condom ie. condom and whatever instead of condom and spermicide?
Thanks for any insights you may provide. You may email us directly.
snoopy77
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susieq35
11-03-2002, 10:26 AM
My husband and i trixed non 9 on a condom several times i like you had a wet discharge and some soreness my doctor told me that its a very harsh gel and many people are allergic to it...I stayed away from it and now i am very happy i am sure your wife woulde be too
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snoopy77
11-04-2002, 02:21 PM
Thanks for your email.
What method did you and your husband end up using?
What method did you and your husband end up using?
Angelene
11-04-2002, 09:40 PM
This sounds like an allergy to Nonoxynol-9, I'm allergic and many people are.
Just use condoms that aren't lubricated with spermicide. You can use regular condoms, and please make sure she is wet enough to enjoy sex. It's supposed to be pleasure for BOTH partners. There's really no excuse for not enough foreplay.
Using KY is good--they make lube that doesn't have spermicide in it, you should get that.
Just use condoms that aren't lubricated with spermicide. You can use regular condoms, and please make sure she is wet enough to enjoy sex. It's supposed to be pleasure for BOTH partners. There's really no excuse for not enough foreplay.
Using KY is good--they make lube that doesn't have spermicide in it, you should get that.
snoopy77
11-05-2002, 03:01 PM
Hi Angelene,
We didn't have sufficient foreplay the first time because she wanted to skip it and get straight to having intercourse. She realized later that we should have had foreplay and now, we always do.
We used spermicidal gel because we wanted to have the double protection of condoms and spermicide. We read that these 2 used in tandem greatly decreases the risk of a birth control failure.
Since we can't use spermicidal gel because of allergies, do you know of an alternative to it which we may use with condoms?
We didn't have sufficient foreplay the first time because she wanted to skip it and get straight to having intercourse. She realized later that we should have had foreplay and now, we always do.
We used spermicidal gel because we wanted to have the double protection of condoms and spermicide. We read that these 2 used in tandem greatly decreases the risk of a birth control failure.
Since we can't use spermicidal gel because of allergies, do you know of an alternative to it which we may use with condoms?
Lady^
11-07-2002, 10:30 AM
She could be allergic to the condom too. Many women become irriated when using a rubber. Or it could be the spermacide, or it could be both. Spermacide always irritated me but I had no other choice for birth control (hated condoms and they irritated me worse) so I put up with the spermacide. We did, however, monitor my fertility so we only had to use birth control for about one week out of each month.
snoopy77
11-07-2002, 11:51 AM
Hi Lady,
Are you and your husband using some sort of natural family planning method? You had mentioned monitoring your cycle.
If so, which method are you using?
My wife and I had been taught about the Billings Ovulation Method and were thinking of using it.
Are you and your husband using some sort of natural family planning method? You had mentioned monitoring your cycle.
If so, which method are you using?
My wife and I had been taught about the Billings Ovulation Method and were thinking of using it.
Lady^
11-07-2002, 04:54 PM
Well, we didn't use any specific method so I wouldn't want to recommend anything to you. My periods are very regular and I had pain when I ovulated so I felt pretty safe in assuming that I ovulated on day 14 of my cycle. So we would use protection from days 9-17. It worked for us. I was very fertile when we tried to get pregnant (had miscarriage problems, though) and I never got pregnant using "our" method. But like I said, I wouldn't recommend you using it as each woman's body & cycle are different. I also believe that any natural method is a bit risky and shouldn't be used if the couple absolutely positively does not want kids.
Due to my miscarriage problems I finally ended up getting my tubes tied this past summer.
Good luck.
Due to my miscarriage problems I finally ended up getting my tubes tied this past summer.
Good luck.