dsheldon3
11-05-2002, 12:06 AM
How long do you wait for your lover to get interested?How much rejection do you take? When your in a steady love making relationship and then the other person suddenly loses interest in sex how long do you wait for them to get interested again?What is normal?How long should I wait for my BF to get interested in sex again before I dump him ?LOL ! Seriously, I'm thinking of dumping him if something doesn't happen soon.I don't want to "just" be his friend but he is making a joke out of everything ,mostly my emotions.So, maybe he isn't doing it on purpose and just can't get into it.How long should I wait before writing him off as a deadbeat?
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PiePants
11-05-2002, 01:39 AM
How guys can be completely turned off on sex is beyond me. How guys can be completely turned off from intimacy is just annoying.
Honey, if the man ain't giving you shouldn't put up much longer. If that's what you want in a relationship, you better tell him asap or else you'll give up the guy, and it won't be pretty.
Honey, if the man ain't giving you shouldn't put up much longer. If that's what you want in a relationship, you better tell him asap or else you'll give up the guy, and it won't be pretty.
dsheldon3
11-05-2002, 01:57 AM
I did tell him, and he thinks its a big joke and turns down any advances I make and has stopped comming on to me.Well, if he thinks a relationship without any sex is great, he will just have to have it with someone else.Heck, thats probably why it stopped to begin with.Hes getting it elsewhere and hes getting it good cause theres nuthin left for me. :(I guess I lost, AGAIN ! %$%*@$^%#%#^@^$@$@y!!!!!!
mlgable
11-05-2002, 12:11 PM
Have you discussed the possibility of there being a possible physical cause of his decreased sex drive. Is he on any new medications? I would discuss why he is not interested in sex any more and if he can't come up with a reason then insist he see the doc about this and get checked out. If he cares enough about you he will do this. If he doesn't then you need to move on.
mothmin
11-05-2002, 11:38 PM
ds,I WAS that guy once, I never thought in a million years I'd turn sex for any reason, but I had a gf that just constantly wanted to fight about everything, if I wouldn't fight, she got even more pissed off. I would go see her, wanting to have a good time, and she'd start a fight, then later she'd call and say " i'm horny please come back over"......yeah right. I hope that's not your situation, but you should get to the bottom of it now. and there's no guilt if you leave him. good luck.
tinkers
11-06-2002, 12:48 AM
I know that with one bf I had, I totally lost interest in sex with him and only him. I should have broken it off, but I didn't. Shame on me, I know but I had sex with other people. I'm not saying your guy is cheating. That was just my situation. Maybe he is tired?! Work!? Prescriptions!? Just be honest with him and tell him how you feel! If it was me, waiting 2 days is long enough! Just kidding! But i CAN'T HANDLE MORE THAN A week! LOL
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dsheldon3
11-06-2002, 02:52 AM
No, I don't fight with him.He comes over my apartment leading me on sexually then when I except he pushes me away and comes up with excuses why he doesn't feel like it.Then he will try to start fights with me with anything he can.Like why did he even bother comming over?Just to tease and torment me????He use to come over and make love to me all evening now when he comes over he just plays head games.I don't know if his excuses are for real or he has been screwing somebody else and is just seeing me to bide the time till he sees his other girlfriend again or what.I can put up with a guy playing head games as long as hes giving me affection.But head games and NO sex and NO affection? I just can't handle that.
dsheldon3
11-06-2002, 05:58 PM
Oh Hell,I don't know what to do.I know if he comes over I am going to answer that door out of desperation.I know I will break down and cry from all this heartache.I know he will laugh and ridicule me for having emotions and get mad at me for feeling love towards him.He'll think I'm stupid and make fun of me for a few hours then leave me .... drowning in my tears. :(
lulugonlolo
11-06-2002, 06:36 PM
If he's doing that, then it's totally not cool. It's to blatant and cruel. Something is up. Confront him. End the pain now rather than prolong it. You will prevail by the strength you'll gain.
tinkers
11-07-2002, 12:08 AM
You need to be strong. If he is still playing these silly games, it's not worth your self-respect. Talk it out if possible or dump his a**! Find someone who will appreciate you!
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dsheldon3
11-07-2002, 03:42 PM
OK, I'll just be his stupid friend and take all his stupid crap.If he comes over again which I don't think he will after he saw how upset I got with him laughing at my emotions that he stirred up playing stupid head games the last time he was here. I'll just sit there and pray for doomsday. http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/yawn.gif
dustbunnys_baby
11-07-2002, 05:20 PM
ds, Don't take his crap any more. You are a woman who deserves love and affection. If he isn't giving that to you than he doesn't deserve to be in your life. Also If he is making fun of your emotions and laughing at you for feeling the way you do than there is definitaly something up. I would confront him and be strong. Even if you do cry allow your words to say yeah I am hurt but I won't let you treat me this way. Sometimes our SO's need a little push in the right direction. My husband used to do this same thing to me and I got so fed up with i just came out with and it turned out he didn't mean to act that way and he did a lot of apologizing for his actions. But I think you need to kick this guy to the curb and find you a real man. :D
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