I have an obsession with tuberculosis and anything else that has to do with coughing up blood. I've had this obession since I was 13, but I recently started talking about it. I was afraid of what people would think. Some people don't care, some think it's weird, and some people get angry at me. I've had some other obsessions when I was younger, such as dragons, moons, and bananas. I don't think I liked them as much as my current obsession. I think about tuberculosis almost all the time. It's my favorite thing in the world.
I have a very strange sense of humor. I think that a canoe ringing someone's door bell is hilarious. Everyone thinks that the stuff I say is stupid, except for my friends.
I have a problem with Math. I have to learn the same things over and over again. The next day, I will forget what I have learned. I can do addition and subtraction without a calculator, but I can't do multiplication and division without one.
I'm 19, and I still can't tie my shoes. I've always felt stupid because of that.
I'm on a waiting list to be evaluated for Asperger or other ASD. I can relate to not being able to tie shoes. When I was 14 I finally tied my shoes for the first time by myself. My parents thought that I was having trouble tying shoes because I don't have much use out of my left hand. This is definitely a factor but there are also other things that make me think I could have a ASD.
My parents and teachers kept trying to show me how to tie my shoes, but I just couldn't do it. They gave up on teaching me how. Now I just wear shoes that don't need to be tied.
Wow, I never knew difficulty tying shoes was so universal to Asperber's. My ten year old son still can't properly tie his shoes. He kind of "fakes" it, but it's not the way a NT person would do it. I remember his second grade teacher complaining to me about it. I still try to find laceless shoes for him whenever possible.
Goldar, I'm the mother of a ten year old with AS and the aunt of a fourteen year old niece with AS. I'm not a psychologists, but I definitely think you should look into seeing one to find out. If you are happy with the way you are, terrific. But if you are like my son and niece, and your obsessions are all-consuming, and your anxiety level high, causing sleep difficulties, there are therapies to make your everyday life more managable.
I remember tucking my shoe strings inside my shoes. Of course they never stayed there so I would have to do it several times a day. When I was little I went to OT (occupational therapy) and I think they tried to teach me how to tie my shoes but I just didn't get it like you Goldar. Until finally one day I was just bored and worked on trying to tie my shoes and it just clicked for some reason. When I finally did it I was so excited and I wanted to tell somebody and at the same time embarrassed because I was a teenager who just learned how to tie my shoes. So I don't think I told anyone. I wasn't living with my parents but remember sending a letter to mom telling her I could tie my shoes.
I'm not telling you all this to make you feel bad. It's never too late to keep trying. Maybe one day it will just "click" for you. Good Luck!
I've read that a lot of individuals with AS or ASD have difficulty learning to tie shoes. Not sure why. Then again some people don't have a problem with it. Each situation is unique and I don't think that if you can't tie your shoes it's automatically a sign that you have a ASD just a problem with fine motor skills I think they call it.