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Old 09-22-2005, 03:44 PM   #1
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New here, 18 yrs old with Asperger's

Hi everyone. My name is Hannah (as if you couldn't tell that from my username lol), and I'm an 18-year-old girl with Asperger's Syndrome. I was first dx'ed (dx'ed=diagnosed) in my freshman year of high school. Before then, I had no idea that anything was wrong with me (yes, I do consider AS to be "something wrong"). Now I'm in my freshman year of college and I'm trying to cope with all the infinite new experiences I'm being forced into. Of course, I got to decide whether or not college was a good idea for me, and back in fall 2004, it sure seemed like it would be a fun/enriching experience. Of course that was back before I knew what college life was really like. Now I'm lonely 90% of the time, I'm staying in my dorm room and posting on online message boards after classes and after meals, and I have no want at all to make friends here.

Sorry for the rant, I didn't initially mean to include a complaint in my introduction post, it just...appeared lol. So, yeah, that's me. Hope I'm welcome here.

 
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Old 09-22-2005, 06:30 PM   #2
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Re: New here, 18 yrs old with Asperger's

Please give college a chance. If you would make yourself go out and meet people, it will help...

 
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Old 09-22-2005, 08:32 PM   #3
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Re: New here, 18 yrs old with Asperger's

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Please give college a chance. If you would make yourself go out and meet people, it will help...
I am giving college a chance, it's just difficult at times. And as for making myself go out and meet people, that is MUCH easier said than done. But thanks for the advice.

 
Old 09-22-2005, 08:33 PM   #4
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Re: New here, 18 yrs old with Asperger's

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Hi Hannah, WELCOME to the boards!! I am sorry you are lonely at college. I have a four year old son with autism. I hope you enjoy posting here, it's a great place.
Thanks, Ausomemom2. I know that in the long run, every drop of education I can get will benefit me, so I guess I'll just tough it out. And thanks for the welcome.

 
Old 09-22-2005, 08:48 PM   #5
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Welcome Hannah..... I hope things get easier at college. I think alot of young people whether they are AS or not have difficulty adjusting to the college dorm life. You should be very proud of yourself for taking the initiative to go to college. I hope you find some good support here. Welcome again and good luck

 
Old 09-23-2005, 06:41 AM   #6
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Welcome Hannah..... I hope things get easier at college. I think alot of young people whether they are AS or not have difficulty adjusting to the college dorm life. You should be very proud of yourself for taking the initiative to go to college. I hope you find some good support here. Welcome again and good luck
Thanks a ton, Jeffreys Mom! That really means a lot to me.

 
Old 09-29-2005, 09:40 PM   #7
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Re: New here, 18 yrs old with Asperger's

Hi Hannah, my college experience was much the same as you describe. I am 45 and have ADHD and a 14 year old son with aspbergers and learning disability though he is incredibly bright. I believe that I was lucky in college because I was older- and it was still lonely for me. I was not yet diagnosised or treated- and I also have tremendous anxiety- I would complete all my work and then not beable to turn it in because I couldnt bear the idea that a teacher would look at my work and in a way "touch" me. (I also have post traumatic stress syndrome -which for me feels alot like my sons aspbergers) Do you have any religous interests- that for me was finally the one place where people kinda had to like me and be nice to me - sorted obligated due to the nature of religion and all! (smile-I am roman catholic) Lucky for me I am now fully medicated after dropping out 3 times I take part time classes when I can and get straight As but - as a quite observer- college appeared to be some of the most painful and lonely experiences that many girls had- not just me. My daughter is 18 and will be going next year. I cross my fingers she has a wonderful experience. She did not inherit my shy introverted side so she should be oK. My son began High School this year. He joined drama club because his sister was in it and he loves the lighting booth. So that was a big plus. His story is quite interesting. If your ever board you can search my name and read about his long struggle with aspbergers! good luck, hope to hear more of your college story as it unfolds- make your self go out- to a game or get a camera- they're wonderful to hide behind. You can go anywhere with one and just blend in! -Mary

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Old 10-01-2005, 06:35 AM   #8
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Re: New here, 18 yrs old with Asperger's

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Now I'm lonely 90% of the time .... and I have no want at all to make friends here.
If you recognise that you're lonely, surely that means that you do want to make friends, but you just find it really hard? Remember, though, that the first step is by far the hardest. Once you have pushed yourself to make it, things will become easier.

My partner has Asperger's and we met when he was at university. The university had a scheme whereby they got volunteers to help disabled students. Some of the students were physically disabled, in wheelchairs, and some had conditions like Asperger's and ADHD. Having a volunteer to help him in social situations really helped my partner, and after a while he didn't feel like his volunteer had to be there. We met because I was a volunteer working with another student.

There was a great social life on the scheme, but the most important thing for my partner was that he had someone there to give him a push, and be there for him to help him socialise and make friends. Without his volunteer he might not have been able to do that.

You might need to give yourself the push, but once you do, things will get easier. And don't forget, you've got a support network here whenever you need a kindly word.

 
Old 10-01-2005, 05:34 PM   #9
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Re: New here, 18 yrs old with Asperger's

Hi Hannah,
I know very much how you feel about college,
I am exactly the same!

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Old 10-12-2005, 12:40 AM   #10
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Hello,
I'm new here too. I think you will like it here, I do. I have a question may be you can answer. I have a 2yr old son that is showing signs of autism but havn't been dx yet. Tell me, if you can put it into words and if you want to. What is it like living with autism?
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