I am new here, and I just had my almost 12 year old diagnosed with aspergers. She was misdiagnosed when she was younger with ADHD... which I never felt was acurate. Anyhow, we just got her in, and yes she is aspergers. Now, I am overwhelmed. I need help in knowing what to do next, what books to read to help me get educated fast. I feel bad that its this late in life, feel ok that we made this far, but am so overwhelmed with all of this. PLEASE HELP ME. I am just lost. I have started trying to get help from the state for her therapy. Basically she can't get things, like common sense, jokes, and socializing. She has no friends... and is very negative. She use to go thru rages and thank heavens we survived that. I have five children. She is my second child.
I am gonna go to the library and get ideas on how to parent her. Do any of you have great methods in getting thru to your child? What about chores? do you have them do them? I have always had her do chores and treated her as best as I could like my other children. I know that things overwhelm her so we just do it differently when its her turn to do dishes. BUT I am so lost on how to reach her and get her to realize we love her so much. All the hugs and telling her how proud we of her hasnt' made a difference. IS THIS PART OF THE ASPERGERS? They don't see that people love them? Because, I tell her all the time, we have special one on one time, we have to ask her to join us in everything. Like, my kids naturally come on on our bed On Saturday morning, but she never joins in, until we call for her to.. then she doesnt get the play thing...we try to wrestle with her like we do the others but she doesn't get it. Or this is how much I understand.
I am open to everything. PLEASE TELL ME WHAT YOU KNOW AND WHAT I SHOULD KNOW
THANKS FOR YOUR ADVICE AND SUPPORT!