Re: Could my son have Asperger's?
This is the first time I've been on this board.
I have a 32-year-old son with Asperger's Syndrome. We had a lot of difficulty obtaining a diagnosis, even though I trudged from one place to another. Finally, at age 30 years old, we had our answer. A lot of the symptoms you describe are similar to how our son behaved when he was a baby. Unfortunately, not much was known about this condition when he was in grade school, so the school system did all sorts of interventions just to keep him going. He eventually did graduate, but it was a really, really difficult process.
We obtained our diagnosis by faithfully keeping records, never throwing any paperwork away that related to his school, medical, etc. I even logged every phone call from the school. Two different times, I took him to a school for learning handicapped children that had diagnostic facilities. The second time I went to them they utilized all my records to discern what was wrong, albeit it was a long time coming. Once I had the diagnosis, I went to our local regional center for autistic/mentally handicapped children/adults, and was able to obtain services through them at no charge to us. Our son is now working full-time and has his own apartment through social services. He is a testament in courage and constantly amazes and inspires me. I remember so many times being discouraged and sad because I felt he would never realize any dreams of his own. He has proved me wrong.
The sooner you get started with this child, the better it will be for all of you. Do you have services for the older child through your local regional center? Of course, this would only apply if you live in the United States. I do not know how the system works in other countries.