my son has been sent to autism specialists now they agree that he has aspergers syndrome which in a 4 year old is extremely patient wearing, if there is anyone with some advice on how to deal with my son please reply
Last edited by moderator2; 12-30-2006 at 08:22 AM.
The question you pose is so broad its difficult for anyone to even begin to answer for you. Instead why don't you tell us a little about your son as an individual and what you feel are specific problems you need some advice regarding. Good advice and support is available on this forum! If you could just narrow things down a bit for us I'm sure there are people who will jump right in and offer some help.
I recently spent a week staying with a family who has a 21 year old guy with Asperger's. His family seemed to deal with his difficulties by remaining calm and firm and affirming his character. For example, his mother needed him to drive his grandmother to the doctor, and he was whining because he "had a cold" and thought "someone without a cold" should do it. He seemed oblivious to the fact that his sister was getting married in 3 days (why I was down there) and every single available person was wrapped up in an extremely hectic schedule.
I can see how this type of behavior would drive most people crazy, but the mother was one of the kindest and most patient people I have ever met. I remember her saying to him, "Chris, you are such a good person. Do it for Jesus. Do it because it honors God."
I don't know if you're religious, but that reasoning seemed to motivate him. This might not help you at all, but I wanted to share just in case.
Last edited by moderator2; 01-01-2007 at 02:11 PM.
he has fits of aggresion ie, if he has a change in routine i am on the end of a slap, punch, kick from him, boxing day he slammed a door at my mum for no reason, slapped his aunt when he was told it wasn't right to hurt nanny, then on the 27th smashed up 4 toys he had because his bedroom was untidy, i can deal with adhd as his twin sister has it but rileys behaviour is so difficult which made mw post the first message, hope this helps
Yeah, unfortunately, the fits of aggression probably won't go away. I still hit my mother once in awhile when there's an abrupt change in routine or she's doing something that aggravates my sensory issues (like combing my hair really roughly). It's not something I'm proud of, but I try my best to control it. Most of my aggression is verbal aggression. I talk back more and get nastier when there's change/interruption or sensory issues. I also tend to whine more when I'm going through sensory issues. I throw a lot of fits by myself. Just two-and-a-half weeks ago I was frustrated over a homework assignment. I went to take my headphones out of my CD player, so I could listen to music on my computer, and the CD player fell on the floor. That set me off for some reason. I threw the headphones across the room and broke them. My tantrums have been greatly lessened now that I'm on the mood stabilizer Lamictal, but Asperger's is for life, so they will always be there in some way, shape, and form.
"Not everything that steps out of line, and thus 'abnormal,' must necessarily be 'inferior.'"