Hi Jourdan216 and Elmhar,
Thank you for your suggestions. I feel spoiled, really because we are in a great school district where our daughter has an aide, she gets good services, etc.... But the support teacher and the aides sometimes tend to treat her like a behavior problem instead of keeping in mind her diagnosis. It's very frustrating for her and she tends to hold onto the guilt that gets fostered from these times when they treat her like a behavior problem. That and she is not readily accepted by her peers - but no bullying, YET.
Elmhar, I have been brainstorming all day about what to do and I think I've about reached the same conclusion as what you had. I think I am expecting too much from the school. So, I've decided to get a social skills checklist, go through it and start from square one to make sure that my sweet daughter understands. We've done ABA and RDI, floortime and social work, speech, OT, social groups, etc.... It's been a very long road. But, she has progressed SO much!! She is a GREAT kid - I just hate to see her go from a happy, socially driven child to a withdrawn, anxiety ridden kiddo. She is like a different child when she is around other kids with Aspergers or HFA - she' s so happy and relaxed and chatters to them a mile a minute! It's a great thing to see. One of my friends suggested starting an Aspergers club where we get the kids together once a week for some fun and socialization. I thought that was a great idea!
Thanks for taking the time to respond to my question. Good luck to you all in your autism adventures!