Re: Aspergers and relationships
I'm not sure if you'll have met this guy by now, but I figured I'd respond to your post anyway.
I'm 17 and in a relationship with a guy with mild autism (PDD-NOS). I also met him online. I love him dearly. We've been together for nearly a year now, and whilst we've had our ups and downs, I can't imagine a relationship more loyal and loving. Whilst my boyfriend's autism is relatively mild and I have no experience to draw upon with aspergers specifically, I'm certain that a loving relationship between you and this guy is more than possible and could be very fulfilling.
A couple of things I will give you a heads up on though - what CircusSquirrel said at the end of her post, about remembering Aspys, while they have some of the same traits, are DIFFERENT people, is very true. He will have his quirks and oddities, I can garantee it, and they can be both endearing and a little frustrating sometimes, but aspergers or not he's still very much his own individual. Also, what Katycat said about finding the real person in there is true as well. He may well find it difficult to express himself to begin with, as he's told you, but with time and understanding on your part that can change. It sounds as though you really have the right idea about this whole thing though, so I wish you the best of luck! I'm sure you'll do great; you seem caring and patient, and he sounds like a sweet guy.
There might be times when things are a little difficult, but should you both develop a relationship together, talk and listen with one another, then there is absolutely no reason why it would be any less close and loving than a 'normal' relationship.
Edit: Haha, I just noticed the dates of the posts. I suppose you must have met him by now. Ah well, my post remains for anyone else who might wonder the same things you do.
Last edited by Lone Bird; 09-11-2008 at 07:18 PM.