Originally Posted by windnangels
8. He puts all his thoughts into words, I can't always decide whether what he says addresses me or not;
Hi, have a dx of Asperger Syndrome and can relate to this one big time
It is a conscious effort to stay focused on what the other person said rather than going off on a tangent of inner thoughts.
A lot of the other traits you describe sound like they are on the spectrum.
In social situations, people speak in a complicated language; there is much subtext. Direct communication is the only thing that makes much sense. People make subtle eye movements to communicate their emotions. i don't speak with much emotion.
People with AS can learn things with time but progress only so far socially (it depends on the individual). For example, i can learn some superficial things but still have trouble understanding the most appropriate way to respond. In a straightforward, structured situation it is easy, but when there is no structure it gets complicated and confusing.
10. never foresee what could hurt a person or why that happens... I always have to explain myself when he hurts me.
Can relate to this also though it is more subtle. The words themselves aren't offensive but the way they are said sometimes (without meaning to). For example, using a coarse tone of voice when approaching a certain issue rather than talking softly or testing the waters first. Same words are spoken but the inflection makes a big difference. For many on the spectrum, this does not come naturally- or the phrasing isn't quite right.