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Originally Posted by windnangels  8. He puts all his thoughts into words, I can't always decide whether what he says addresses me or not; |
Hi, have a dx of Asperger Syndrome and can relate to this one big time
It is a conscious effort to stay focused on what the other person said rather than going off on a tangent of inner thoughts.
A lot of the other traits you describe sound like they are on the spectrum.
In social situations, people speak in a complicated language; there is much subtext. Direct communication is the only thing that makes much sense. People make subtle eye movements to communicate their emotions. i don't speak with much emotion.
People with AS can learn things with time but progress only so far socially (it depends on the individual). For example, i can learn some superficial things but still have trouble understanding the most appropriate way to respond. In a straightforward, structured situation it is easy, but when there is no structure it gets complicated and confusing.
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10. never foresee what could hurt a person or why that happens... I always have to explain myself when he hurts me.
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Can relate to this also though it is more subtle. The words themselves aren't offensive but the way they are said sometimes (without meaning to). For example, using a coarse tone of voice when approaching a certain issue rather than talking softly or testing the waters first. Same words are spoken but the inflection makes a big difference. For many on the spectrum, this does not come naturally- or the phrasing isn't quite right.
