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Old 03-27-2011, 10:08 AM   #1
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Asperger's needs to be diagnosed properly

Lately I realized many people often self-diagnose or diagnose for a person with Asperger's when there seems to be a relationship problem with the person. Such answer seems to calm people down and gives "closure".

The more I think about it, the more I realized that it is better not to diagnose people in private. That is, only a psychiatrist or specialist can diagnose this.
To guess for an elder to have this is only a guess.

I like to live in a real world. Even though I do have trouble with my father-in-law who is in his own world, I still cannot say he has Asperger's for sure.
His late wife said he was born that way (self-centered) and that he is the power figure of the family. He never tries to understand my husband's career and yet he "forced" family members to "work with him" after he retired as an emeritus professor.

Certainly I try to understand him and reason with his past to understand why he is like this. It is too late to deal with him, but I keep asking why myself.

There are lots of reasons for him to behave like this: He has a great and successful career and he was born into a traditional family where men are important figures in the family. He lived through war in his home country and his Dad died young. Lots of hardships in his youth. He is self-centered because he has no need to socialize unnecessarily. It is his interest. He has no other hobbies...

All these things look like Asperger's but I cannot diagnose him with it because I am not a doctor.

I think sometimes we don't have to label the person with Asperger's. It is more important to forgive him for such selfishness. After all, he was not a bad husband and he is not really a bad father considering some bad parents we heard about in the society.

Forgiveness helps us to move on. We don't have to bother with Asperger's and "educate" the family with Asperger's and etc. Just leave it alone and forgive him.

Nina

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Re: Asperger's needs to be diagnosed properly

Just remember that Asperger's is a realitive new diagnoses . So a ot of of older people msy fall into the catorgory of this disorder, they could not of even been diagnosed at a earlier time. If the person is comfortable with his behaviors their is really no reason for a a concrete diagnoses, menaing it would not change him . only label them . And sometimes it is not a good idea to do so. It is not going to open up any new ideas or plans of change.
As for the younger generation, children or young adults this can be benificial to understand them better, and possible have some intervention , especially for the school age population.
It is very true to have a real diagnoses from a professional that is trained to diagnose and offer support.

 
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Re: Asperger's needs to be diagnosed properly

I agree with you. For the older generations, it is too late and makes no sense to make such diagnosis. For younger generations, if any intervention can be done to help these people, they need to be diagnosed and treated.

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Re: Asperger's needs to be diagnosed properly

Yes, and I do think that their are seervices offered by the school district to help children diagnosed with Asperger's. They might not need a special day class, depending on any any other behaviors or disorders, often found in Aperger's. Meaning that these children can have other things going on with them besides Aspergers. Sometimes, ODD is a issue with Asperger's, or ADHD . Their can be Dual comboination disorders that overlap each other, therefore intervention is needed. Asperger's main issues are social problems , and being obseesed over their own interests. These children or young adults typically have high or average IQ's, however have some severe problems interacting with others and seem not to fit in . This is the main difference in high functioning autism vrs Asperger's. Also Asperger's syndrome, their is no language delays when developing speech as young children.
My son is high functioning autism, and after his evaluation by a neuropsycholigist , I was told it was autism , not Asperger's because he had the language delay as a small child. He also has a mild to moderate low IQ .

 
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Re: Asperger's needs to be diagnosed properly

The diagnosis would benefit your son as he was diangosed properly when he is younger. I sure hope your son gets the advantage to gain most for his education.
I believe that a diagnosis is used to benefit the patient, not to label the person or to satisfy one's own desire to have biased opinions.

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