My three year olds son william is showing signs of aspergers and i am not sure what to do about it. William si a very clever 3 yr old although he is obsessed with reading and wathcing the same shows over and over again. When he is watchoing a show i have to physically touch him to get his attention. William has needed a routine since the day he was born n if that routine does not get followed william has tantrums or gets very naughty and emotional. When playing at out local parks and play gyms william expectseveryone to be his best friend and when they dont want to play with him he comes to me screaming and crying. if he spills a drink on his shirt william has a breakdown until i change the shirt. William is obsessed with ben 10 can name all of the characters and only today said to me quick gwen we need to go see the plumbers. I cried. He refers to himself in the third person a lot. When william gets upset or if i get mad at him or discipline him he cries and says i need daddy. this hurst me because 9 times out of ten my husband is at work.
My parents say william is spoilt and naughty and needs a good smack but i worry that he is misunderstood. he is so emotional and angry when he has a tantrum he gouges at his face. He goes to preschool adnd kids say hello william and he stares at them or through them or walks away. he hates the feel of most food wont eat anything slimy or chewy. If his hands get dirty he cries until i clean them. I spend most days stressed out. I dont want my little boy to grow up with no friends and being picked on. i want to get him assessed but cannot convince my parents or partner that there is spmething else wrong. What would you do??
I would have my son evaluated. He needs to be seen by a developmental PED, or child Psycholigist. Even it this is not Aspergers which is typically caught at the school age level, he might be on the spectrum. PDD, or PDD-nos comes to mind.
Your parents just might not know about autism , so try not to get too upset about their comments. He does not sound spoiled... He soes in my opinion, have a lot of autistic like behaviors. But, young enough to still not certain how to make friends just yet. At 3 yrs old a lot of young children are not sure how to make friends, and play side by side each other. Kids are cruel, they do and can make other children feel badly, especially at a park . That would upset any child. At least he is trying to interact. Very young children with autism do not even try. If he talked early though, and does focis on certain topics that only intersets him , and it is hard to get him to talk about anything else , that is a red flag. It is great that his speech is goos and not delayed, which points to anther thing> In autism the speech is either not there, or it is babbling or echoalic.
Try to have your son exposed to a lot of social situations. Where he can gain more experiences around other kids. It does seem like he needs help in this area.
It does not hurt to have him ecaluated just to make sure he is on the right developmental track. Being just 3 yrs old, and your already noticing these differences is good. That means you are a attentive parent.
My son has autism, he is verbal. At the age of 3 all he did was repeat a few words he heard that someone said to him. His speech was not normal, until age 5So I am not sure if a specialist would place a label on such a young child , of asperger's. But, autism is a spectrum disorder so he still could fall within the spectrum somewhere.
Take him in to be evaluated by a specialist, that way early intervention can start , and help teach your child , so making school and social interactions easier for him.
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Thank you for the reply. I wanted to take him before school so that the early intervention could start but its so hard when even your husband wont listen to your concerns. I just want to help him as much as I can before he gets to school.
Ok Mummyem I respect the other blogger but we took my grandson to a psychologist and had a nightmare he wanted us to put him on some herb concoction that had arsenic in it. when i argued with him he stopped trying. I know from your blog you are new to this well get ready cause it is not fun. To get the right diagnosis take him to a psychiatrist. You will save yourself a alot of time. They will refer you to therapist and talk about meds which is a whole nother can of worms. We just tryed my boy on Conerta and he had a phsychotic episode. Chewed his toungue, wanted us to get the keys and take him home and we were home. his eyes dialated fully for 20 hours and he was like a drunk man. And all that was on the smallest dose. His doctor apologized and we put him back on valerian root. Now my boy does what your son does and therapy has helped a great deal. Can you make eye contact with him? For some reason the brain doesn't comprehend what he is hearing. but through therapy they will teach him how to communicate. Referring to himself in the third person is classic autism I have no doubt from what you wrote he is autistic. I know how you feel but i also know your families problem with it too you see i was in denial for years but the quicker you go the better. The earlier they diagnose the quicker they can help him. Is he hyper. Mine is and I put him on Valerian Root to calm him and slow him down. ADHD is very common in austism and the doctors want to give kids drugs. well once they give one there is always side effects and then they give another to counteract the first and so on and so on. One boy I read about was on 10 meds and and they had to put in the hospital to get him off them and he still has a tick from them. It is all maddening but you know God is the creator of these little bodies and he can help you just ask. That's what i do daily and He is the one who told me about Valerian Root. Has no side effects and calms them. Otherwise my boy would be running in circles and jumping up and down. He has been off the Concerts 2 1/2 weeks and the effects are still wearing off. Well hope this helps. God Bless NINI
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