Hello,i have only just joined this website as i have chronic health problems,but i noticed the columns on Asperger's Syndrome.My son is 18 and is at college.He attended mainstream primary and high school with extra support and although found it difficult at times and was bullied at high school on ocassions,the school got that sorted out!He done well and past a few exams.Socially he is very withdrawn and is an anxious quiet boy but i am very proud of how he has tried to and is coping with life.He will always need extra support whatever he does,but he has that always at home and i hope in whatever he does in life.You worry about every little thing,but i suppose thats what mums do!I'll never stop worrying about my son,he has his difficulties and manerism's which may seem strange to others,but are part of who he is and his Asperger's.He is a happy boy and will say 'i'm okay mum,you worry to much,which i know i do,but thats just me.
You sound like a great mum and I am so glad you have a son who is trying to go to college and study and become someone in this society. It sounds like he has a very supportive home and connection emotionally with you. It is hard to let your child or young person leave for college or move to another state or country but that is what parents do for their children. We hopefully give them skills and tools to make choices and even if you send them off they are always in your heart and mind. I have three sons and they are always in my prayers and heart and mind. That is what a parent does who loves and wants the best for their child. Best wishes to you and to him. I know you are very proud of him and all he has accomplished. Just think, I was very shy and withdrawn and self-conscious in my young years and they never labeled me asperger but I sure found it hard to trust people and feel that they really liked me. We all need encouragement and lots of love and approval. God bless you.
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I have Asperger's and am a Senior in College. It can be difficult at times but my school has a great disability program and I take it one day at a time. My friends understand and show me some latitude especially when it comes to my "Quirks". It is not easy at times but I deal with it. You sound like a great support!
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We are in a similar situation with our son now 20 years old with Asperger's. He has had special education in a mainstream/reg classroom with very little assistance in high school. His high school teachers adored him and pushed him to go into zoology and built him up so high that he couldn't fail. Well he did the first year of college. The class sizes were to high with too much stimuli and required more than he could handle. A university just was not for him. I am proud to say that his second love is cooking and now he is attending culinary art program. I went to the speciality assistance conselor with him the other day and all instructors have reported to her that he is thriving. We still have issues with social situations, but a few kids asked him to go and do things with them. One friend who does not know he has Asperger's said he's cool because it's like talking to a computer, Nathan always can tell him tons.
I still worry though. I totally get what your saying, you just do cuz your mom. If they came up with a magical pill to cure Asperger's, I'm not sure I'd want him to take it. This is who he is and who I love, just wish other people could realize how great he is and quit judging him. People do way too much of that.
I understand your worry about your son,for me i dont think i'll ever stop worrying.I am pleased your son is now doing something he enjoys and doing it well.The social side has always been very difficult for my son,he wont ask anyone to say, go bowling or out anywhere,and very rarely does anyone ask my son to go anywhere.Most people think he is very quiet and painfully shy,which he can be.With close family he is okay and he has a best friend who is our godson and they go to football matches and the cinema together,his friend is very patient and understanding which is a great help,but he has known my son all his life,so he does not see him any differant from himself.