hello, i joined this site as i believe i live with an undiagnosed aspergers. we have been married for 23 years, fraught with tension, disappointment and distance. my husband can switch from charming to viscious anger in a split second. if i answer him back he becomes verbally abusive and derogatory about me and then disappears into his bedroom for days on end, with not a sound. last year he was admitted to the local mental ward for several weeks however they gave up on him as he was too smart for his case workers. one described him as a physcopath however i do not believe that after reading this site - do other spouses have similar experiences with a dark place...? he will not see any medical professional now as he says they are all out to rip him off...he is paranoid about dentists, lawyers, doctors, police...all trying to rip us (him) off. i do know this is not my problem however i also know that knowledge is power and i love him dearly when he is not in that hole
- god bless and thanks in anticipation.