Just found out my baby has Autism - Autism Spectrum Message Board

Nalaycy07 · 08-27-2002, 08:10 PM

When I was told about my 34 month old son's condition I let my emotions get the best of me I was so worried about him I totally blamed myself because I only thought he had a speech problem and some drooling but never would I have thought about him having Autism I never even heard of this before I took him to his ped and he said he saw some Autsim in him he told me to make an appointment to see a specialist in Autism but that just by watching him he could tell is mild. We are waiting on my baby boy's apointment now but in the mean time I'm trying to learn as much as I can about this so that we can help him. My husband is so hurt by this all he does is spend as much time with our son as he can he caters to his every need and I get upset because he has taken this so bad and I'm afraid he might get too overwhelmed. We have other kids I have two boys 14 & 13 and he has a 15 yr old girl and a 11 year old son and together we both have a 9 month baby girl and our Boo-Boo who is 34 months with Autism in total we have six kids. He spends all his time with Boo-Boo and very limited time with the rest he might spend a little extra time with our baby girl but all his devoted attention goes to Boo-Boo. The doctor said that it might just be a mild case of Autism but I'm worried this might get worst. He say's his numbers not so clear but he does say them and reconizes them and he does the hand clapping and when he runs he tends to put his eyes to the side and look to the side he tip toes but then again he shows alot of affection towards us especailly Dad he is very close to his dad and it seems that everything he does is to please his dad, he understand when you tell him no or give to me, and if the baby cries he put her pacifier in her mouth he my play alittle with her, he plays with the dog now before he didn't pay attention to the dog now he plays with his brothers & sisters and the dog. I just want to know how does this Autism work with the brain does it get better or worst and what can we do to help our son. Sorry I feel like I'm writing forever I just needed to get this off my chest and hope that somebody reads this and can give me and my family some advice. Thanks!!! Nalaycy11

Nicksmom · 08-27-2002, 08:48 PM

Go to your school district or call and ask to talk to the special ed department. Your son needs early intervention. They can provide services such as behavioral therapy, occupational therapy, and speech therapy free of charge. You may want to get into vitamin therapy too. When my son was 3 and first diagnosed, I gave him b-6 (100mg), DMG, and magnisium. At the time, he could only say 10 words, within 3 months of vitamin therapy, he was up to 200. He's now 6 and talks in complete sentences. No one can say for sure on how your son will turn out...so people improve so much as adults, that you can not tell they are autistic. Another thing is that you may want to go on the gf/cf diet. Gluten found in wheat and casins found in milk are horrible on an autistic child, because most of them have leaky gut. I know this is all overwhelming and truthfully, it still is for me and it's been 2 1/2 years since my sons diagnosis. But anyway, I wish you luck and I hope this helps a bit.

MeganPa · 08-28-2002, 01:54 PM

I highly recommend that you seek out your local early intervention program. They will get you the help that you need. I found out my son was mildly autistic just before his third birthday. It was devastating only my husband was in denial at first.

My son goes to an occupational therapist 2x a week for a 1/2 hour and the same for speech. He is also involved in a special preschool prgram. Work as quickliy as you can to get him to these therapies. It has helped my son a great deal! Each child is different but after just a month of school we noticed changes in him. As you read all of these messages you will find that all our children sound like the same kid. Some mothers choose different methods for dealing with the autism. All I can tell you is to take it one day at a time. Look in to each suggestion such as the special diets(which I'm looking into now) the vitamins and meds. not everything works for every kid. Its very hard.

My son like yours is very affectionare twords family. He especially loves his sister, shes 41/2 months. He too finds her binki when she cries and is always kissing her. He has to check on her if she is upstairs sleeping instead of with us. You have to think of the possitves to get you through the hard times, atleast your son is loving some don't know how to show it. You'll find alot of great advice on this site. Good Luck!!!

Megan)

acbuchan · 08-30-2002, 07:45 AM

Hi I think the people above have said most of what you need to know. But I can add that I have two autistic boys, 4 & 2.5 yrs old, and mine also show affection. No one knows how a child will turn out, autistic or otherwise, all you can do is carry on with life and wait and see. I know that is easier said than done (I'm doing that daily too!). But there is a lot of hope, esspecially if you get help now, or even just start researching different teaching methods, decide what is right for you and even start the teaching yourself, thatis what I do, just when ever you get the chance to expand thier knowledge, no matter how simple then try to. Even while you are out walking with them, you can describe the colours and the way the trees move and how you feel about it all. This works wonders, you may not see the results immediately but it does happen. My youngest was only diagnosed a month ago, but because I already have one autistic it wasnt really a big deal to me. My brother is aspergers, and he is the most wonderful caring human being I know, so I look at him and just hope that my children turn out like him. Dont be afraid though, autism is not easy I will admit that, and there are always new issues to deal with every day (my boys currently attack each other and the baby (given the chance) about every five minutes, they constantly have bite marks, bleeding heads, bruises, cuts, etc from bashing each other, but life goes on, you do the best that you can). So all in all, talk to people lots, that helped me, and read ;lots! Remember that most autistics especially mild ones, turn out to be beautiful loving people, so long as they are steered toward the right path. Take care, and good luck. (oh and one thing you will need a lot of is patience!!!!)

allimac · 10-15-2002, 01:09 PM

....try not to worry so.....there are so many things for your son and now that you have a lable you can get him the services he needs ....when my son was dignosed they gave us ADHD he was 3... then at 8 we got PDD (high functioning Autism) now at 16 he my be Asbergers...? quess what at such a young age things can change and they ALWAYS do ....
i hope this was hepful Allimac