Shababy

My daughter is verbal but she has a non verbal learning disorder and it's in the autism spectrum. There are three disorders in the autism spectrum which are nonverbal learning disorder, autism and aspergers. Your son definetely needs some help you haven't been able to provide. I understand.
Have you thought of a private school for kids with autism? They do have some in the USA. My daughter just goes the rehabilitation at a hospital's rehab section. She goes to social classes there(which it sounds like your son needs desperately);. She also will be going to occupational groups there(to teach her to coordinate her clothes, help w/loading a diswasher, etc. Then they also have physical therapy. The tests they do are: speech testing, occupational therapy testing, and phys therapy testing. You can ask your physician for an urgent referral. I would be concerned that cps might get involved w/his genitals showing. I understand you being scared! It almost seems as though they couldn't live in the same household until the problem is corrected. I'm at a loss. And then I'm wondering if cps would try to blame someone else for the bitting. I'm trying to think of what you can do here.
A group home, in home help, relative he can stay with where there are no girls, or your daughter going somewhere till all gets better. I'm probably not helping a bit. Sometimes these therapists think they have all the answers but they don't. If there were an apartment in your house where one parent or relative could stay w/your son and the other people live in the other part of the house for a while. Ask other options from other therapists, call a crisis line if you feel that might get some answers. Maybe the state will help pay for something. I'm sure they would. I'm not one for liking the state like I don't like cps. Once we asked the state to pay for in hosp phyciatric care for a child of ours that wasn't the autism child and they paid even though we had med ins and avg income. I'm 45 and been around the block and raised children 25 yrs and have another 8 yrs to go. I still don't know it all and never will. So, he doesn't do this at school? If I were you, I never would say anything about him touching himself in his own room under his own blankets. That's no problem because that's in his own privacy. When you see him do that, just walk away. I'd say, just tell your daughter never to go in his room. Have you contacted a psyciatrist for some inpatient therapy. This may be the best thing even though we don't like to think of it for our children. Since my first child, I wouldn't want to put a 2nd child in there.
The first child was just out of control, running with gangs, stealing cars at 12 yrs old, etc. The 2nd child has the disorder. I've managed to get through it w/o a in patient deal. But it hasn't been easy on my or the OTHER children.
I hope this helps a little, at least one word I've said I hope is helpful if none of the others. At 15 yrs old, my daughter is doing better. Yes, puberty is harder for kids w/autism, even harder than regular kids. My daughter has hormone disorders, skelatal problems, etc. on top of it all. No, I wouldn't let him stay in there by himself if he's going to bite himself. There has to be a consequence better than that. Maybe if the cops came and had a little talk with him, that might work. When my daughter w/NVLD hit me w/her fist in the back over my heart(I have heart problems), I had the cops arrest her. I never thought it correct the problem because of her disorder but it did! She hasn't hit anyone since. She has a record until she's 21 but she doesn't hit anymore. Actually, I wasn't the only one she was hitting. Maybe tell him to go to his room until he puts his pants on and if he begins to bite himself, tell him you will call the cops if he does it again and keep your word and do it. Show him that you mean business and if he don't mind you, then he'll have to deal with the cops. I feel sorry for both of you. It's hard on both of you, you and your son, but he still has to learn w/o hurting himself.

ShaBaby