Regression - Autism Spectrum Message Board

Kolby · 06-06-2005, 04:15 PM

Today I felt depressed. My son is going backwords. Since he started a special autism nursery school he's NOT doing so well at home. That has been about three weeks now. He is so fussy and unhappy. He is throwing tantrums and just driving me nuts. I was enjoying him so much and now it's back to the point that I can't even walk past him anymore. If I do he cries for something. I miss having home therapy. But I guess in the long run things will get better. This was just a bad day. He kept repeating himself over and over and I just wanted to run. I cried and ask GOD why. He then came over to me and said everything would be alright as he put his hands on my face. And then I felt guilty for my pain.

I just have to do more sensory stuff with him at home to make up for what he isn't getting there. But it is so hard. I'm just stretched so thin.

jeffreys mom · 06-06-2005, 07:05 PM

Michelle, Keep your chin up. I think it's probably just the adjustment to the new school. My typically developing daughter went to regular preschool when she was three. For the first month or so, she was extremely difficult when she came in from school. She was tired but wasn't able to figure out why she was cranky. It settled down after about a month when she adjusted to her new routine. It's probably similar only Kolby has more difficulty expressing himself. Pretty soon things will settle down and this too will be a distant memory because overall it sounds like he's doing well. Keep your chin up..... Ann Marie

Beautifulchild · 06-06-2005, 08:18 PM

My son was also very cranky when he first started autistic school. His tantrums were quite bad and I didn't know what to do. I am glad to say that four months on, he is back to the mostly happy child. If anything I find he is cranky if he misses school!!!
Hopefully things will improve sooner rather than later.

Kolby · 06-07-2005, 08:14 AM

Thanks to both of you. I'm sure you are right. He saw a yellow bus and was screaming to get on it. Right now we are on a three week break and it appears that he wants to go back to school. Maybe he is just unsure of what is going on. I'm just going to try and do more OT with him.

One good thing....this morning I asked him to tell me what color my eyes were. Thinking he wouldn't even know what I asked him or wouldn't look in my eyes he said "Blue" and smiled. It seems Kolby isn't connecting at times and maybe that is why he is fussing. I try and make him look at me and use words. So he can get used to ones face and expressions. I like that he uses words but I want him to learn how to ask for things or say things while looking at someone. I think he understands better because he only has you to focus on, not the tv or other distractions. Is there any tricks you use to get your child to look at you while you speek or while they speeking? And how do you think your child understands better when you do these things?

mommaboyz · 06-07-2005, 11:36 AM

Keep your head up. My sons therapists keep telling me sometimes its one step forward two steps back. You will get there. Dont feel guilty I know how hard it can be I feel the same way sometimes.