You know that among neurotypicals not all get married, and even among those who do, the experience of
That undying, unwavering, unconditional love that makes life so beautiful.
is not universal.
Looking at my son who is 15 yo & PDD-NOS, very high functioning -- most teachers think he has very mild Asperger's if anything at all -- I would say that these experiences will likely be a while down the road. I have every confidence that he will get there, but his social skills & social anxiety are making the journey a little longer than for the average teenager. Right now he is concentrating doing well academically & "fitting in," and making progress. What more could you ask. Sure, there are kids at his school who are "more advanced" socially, but there are also A LOT of neurotypical guys who at 15 yo are basically nerds, who just blush & get tongue-tied when a girl walks past.
I'm esctatic that DS is now at the stage of being extra-careful with his personal hygiene & grooming, that it really matters. Took a little while for him to get there! But this is one of the milestones along the way.
I'm not too sad about that. I look at all the hypersexuality in our culture & think, the more impulse control my son will bring to a relationship, the more maturity & understanding, the better. Right now he is concentrating doing well academically & "fitting in," and making progress. What more could you ask.
Many of our kids bring a very refreshing honesty to social situations. They don't play the games & the concept of wearing a mask is something fairly foreign to them. The truth is always near the surface. In some ways, they are pre-wired for the sort of long-lasting intimate relationships we all hope for, for them. In many ways, it's the neurotypicals who have to get the garbage out of the way ...