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Liz Cook · 05-25-2006, 08:35 AM

i feel deeply offended that anyone would assume that my son does not receive services. he began receiving them at the age of 2 and he is now almost 5 so he has been receiving them for almost 3 years now. we are doing what we can for him. we just dont feel that he is some sort of genetic freak that needs to be fixed and that he was made just the way he was suppose to be. we want isaac to be enabled to be the best isaac he can be not just look like he fits in. and if that doesnt come across clear enough that he is getting ABA, OT, Speech, and PT and that half the time i have to let my newborn cry longer than i want so that isaac gets what he needs then i am sorry that my oppinion that he is not a mistake offends.

Ausomemom2 · 05-25-2006, 09:21 AM

Wow, I totally agree. My son Blake is autistic and I wouldn't change him for the world. He is such a beautiful soul, I wish I could see the world through his eyes. He is so loving, so innocent and pure. I have an NT nephew who is the exact same age as Blake (4.5) and I thank the good Lord above that my son isn't like him. He's mean, spiteful, arrogant and selfish, not to mention he curses and says the most hurtful things. He also picks on my son, which sends hell through me. My son doesn't pick on anyone for being different, he doesn't act like a neanderthal (sp) either. He's just Blake, a wonderfully beautiful child. I jumped on the pity ride big time when he was diagnosed 2 years ago, but I healed, accepted and now have embraced his uniqueness. I think we all go through that emotional uproar in the first year or so, and that's healthy for us, but then we make peace with it. I have grown to respect and even love autism. Maybe it's not a disorder, maybe it's just a difference. I feel like they are better than most NTs because they are so pure and true. They don't lie and they don't hide their emotions. If only the rest of us were so beautiful.

When I get sad over my son I used to blame autism, but now I have realised it's not the autism at all, but it's the way the "normal" world treats him. That is what I pray to protect him from......the "normal" ones. Thanks for your point of view. Stay proud mama!

Brandy

Kolby · 05-25-2006, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Liz Cook

i feel deeply offended that anyone would assume that my son does not receive services. he began receiving them at the age of 2 and he is now almost 5 so he has been receiving them for almost 3 years now. we are doing what we can for him. we just dont feel that he is some sort of genetic freak that needs to be fixed and that he was made just the way he was suppose to be. we want isaac to be enabled to be the best isaac he can be not just look like he fits in. and if that doesnt come across clear enough that he is getting ABA, OT, Speech, and PT and that half the time i have to let my newborn cry longer than i want so that isaac gets what he needs then i am sorry that my oppinion that he is not a mistake offends.

I think it is great that you love and care for your son so much. And that you like him the way he is. We are in the same boat here and on the same side as you. You just want you son to be the best that he is able to be. I mean why teach someone anything? It is so they can reach their full potential right? So you are doing a great job.

jeffreys mom · 05-25-2006, 10:15 AM

Liz;

I just want to say that this is a very caring board and we are all here to support and help inform each other not to judge each other. It sounds like you need a hug right now !!! Hugs.....

Take care

ThreeBoys · 05-25-2006, 01:29 PM

I don't know what was said to you, but I feel just like you.

I went through a period of "fix him fix him fix him". Then realized I was trying to fix him for my sake. Not his. He is exactly who he is supposed to be. And I do everything I can to help him be the best he can be. Not CHANGE him. If I changed him, he'd be someone else! And I like him the way he is! Warm, loving, happy. Frustrated, curious, mysterious. I couldn't imagine him BEING any other way. Sure it's a hard road, and you go thru the why stage. And you wish it was different sometimes. If this is the way our children are supposed to be, then we give them our best and support them just like all our other children!!!

We love our children, challenges and all! And all sorts of emotions go with their special needs. And apparently someone upstairs thinks we're just the mom's to handle all of it!!

HANG IN THERE!! You are not alone!!!
-Kim