I'm new here. My son, now 14, has been dx'd with Sensory Integration
Disorder (age 3), Aspergers (age 6, but practically ruled out), then Anxiety Disorder. The nurse in the hospital nursery suspected autism because he seemed to deal with the bright lights and crying babies by sleeping and she found that unusual. Bright lights have always bothered him, noises too.
One school district psychologist who knew my son over the years believed that my son is not AS but is "somewhere on the autism spectrum." I tend to agree. I can post why later, after I read more posts here and have more time. But I really am worried about son right now because he will not shower any more.
It's surprising because he's quite germ phobic and wants everything super
clean around him, as I keep the shower. He says he can't stand the feeling
of the dead skin that comes off. His last shower (3 weeks ago!), he scrubbed
till he was raw and then was upset because when he dried with the towel
there was still dead skin coming off. Since he is very smart (top fifth percentiles on verbal and performance IQ's), and since he loves logic, I can't
see why I can't talk any sense into him about how the less he showers the
more dead skin will come off when he does, so the key is to shower regularly!
I just spent lots of money on lotions, like Aloe Vera gel and things that
aren't greasy, and gave him scrub ingredients (sugar, organic of course for
him and coconut oil)...It's all just sitting on the counter, untouched. I've sympathized and suggested he just use the sugar scrub and do a gentle
scrubbing then put the moisturizer on and then dry..and that in time there won't be all that yucky skin. I don't know what else to do.
I've searched teen health sites looking for evidence that he could have
health problems from not showering. But found nothing. He pointed to one article I found that unfortunately said lice actually prefer clean scalps
I can't make him do anything. So I can't make him take a shower.
He's homeschooled since fifth grade (his choice and I work at home) and
spends all his time online, not out in the "germ ridden" world.. just to let
you know that drugs aren't an issue. Should I be concerned? I've tried not
saying anything for up to three days...and that didn't work. Does anyone have any suggestions?