my sister had a baby this week... tuesday.... and i just got rid of her kids today!!!!!!
we have been watching her two daughters (4 and 5) and their half sister (11) since monday and my 5 year old autistic son has had ENOUGH! for the last two nights he has been scratching biting pulling hair... everything! and this morning i found him drinking tobasco sauce while covered in honey and 5lbs of sugar and floor cleaner... no pukies but a good mess anyhow
we went to the hospital yesterday to see my sister and the new baby and i took my older sister with me. i am soooooo fortunate that she is my sister because she LOVES isaac and even though she doesnt understand autism all of the time she really understands him. he had a meltdown at the hospital while he was outside with her and she carried him all the way back to the room where i was visiting which is no easy feat as i am sure you know when a kid is tantruming and she doesnt ever care what anybody thinks. so i am lucky there.
today has been the first time since monday evening that i have had time to hold my 4 month old son long enough to feed him a bottle. and my husband who we are sure had aspergers had two good meltdowns yesterday himself.
feel free to vent because we all have been there and it just feels good!
and maybe you can get your daughter into the habit of taking care of the baby when your son needs help... it will give her something constuctive to do and it might help keep her mind off things and keep your concern in one direction instead of a million... i dont know what she would think but she may be old enough to sit down and talk about this in a semi adult manner... letting her know that it would be a big help and letting her know you feel she is old enough to be more responsible... i dont know your family dynamic but you might be able to bring her in on a plan to help with her brother and his meltdown instead of fearing them... just a thought