feeling devestated by NT ignorance! - Autism Spectrum Message Board

Liz Cook · 09-01-2006, 12:20 PM

i just want to rant a little to people who know

my husband came home from work yesterday and told me that one of the guys at work was curious about our son and about autism in general. mark will always talk to people about autism. he likes to try and educate the "normies" but after their conversation and lots of exasperation on my husbands part the guy says "then he is resigned to life?" in reference to our son and his autism! i was totally aghast when my husband told me that his co worker said that! i actually started crying! i am just so frustrated by people who think there is only just one way to be and that everyone who doesnt fit that cookie cutter mold should be ashamed of themselves. our whole lives revolve around this boy and making sure that he is happy and healthy and half the time i feel like i am not there enough for our six month old in order to keep everything just so for isaac and then someone comes along and says that isaac is resigned to being himself!?!?! resigned to what!? being happy? being blissfully unware of what a**holes walk around sharing his air? i am so fed up with the idea that our son should be "normal" to make other people comfortable! AAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!:blob_f ire

i would have told him that isaac is as resigned to be autistic as that jerk is as resigned to being stupid!

9CatMom · 09-02-2006, 08:07 AM

(((Liz)))

That sounds like an awfully cruel thing to say on the part of your husband's co-worker. I don't think we are "resigned" to our fates.

elmhar · 09-02-2006, 01:10 PM

I vastly prefer our kids, who tend towards social naivete, to your average NT JERK.

But --- sigh --- I am resigned to the fact that life outside the cozy walls of my home is populated with quite a few of those NTJs.

I try to balance my explanations of autism by including a little about how we all benefit from the many gifts this gene line has brought to the world. How some of my son's genes came from ME, & some from his very successful DAD -- he's NOT a freak of nature. He's OUR KID. As a Mom, I feel it's important for my kids to overhear a balance of concern about the struggle, & pride in the specialness, when I talk to other adults.

Picali · 09-02-2006, 01:58 PM

Hiya Liz,

I look at my little boy and I see a a child who doesn't have a malicious bone in his body. I see a kid who has never said anything nasty to another child, who's never deliberately tried to get another child in trouble, who's never told a lie, and who will happily share anything he has. I see a little boy who has so much to deal with, day in and day out, and who does it with a smile and hardly ever gets fed up. I see a little boy who is soooooo strong, and who, in four and a half years has coped with more than a***holes like your hubbie's co-worker have probably coped with in forty years. And I, like all the other mums, am so proud that he chose me to raise him and feel so honoured to be around someone with such a beautiful personality. I recommend you stick that idiot's head down the nearest toilet and tell him to resign himself to that!!

Liamsmom · 09-02-2006, 05:05 PM

You said it baby. Although I myself would pay a special visit and make that sh**head feel as small as his comment.!!!!!!! I'm so ****ed off for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1