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Old 09-23-2006, 01:42 PM   #1
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Question should i stop worrying?

It is another weekend and my 2 NT kids a boy 16, and girl 12, are out and about with their friends as usual. My 15 yr old AS son is home, in his room drawing and watching a movie. My heart breaks sometimes. I feel like he is lonely and bored. I ask him of course and he says " i am fine, im watching my movie". Should I stop stressing? I would love to hear from other AS people. Is he fine? Should I be taking him out, keeping him occupied? I know I should know all this by now and be used to it. It is just the other two are home less and less. They are extremly social. UGH

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Re: should i stop worrying?

Trust me, your son is fine. You know what I did yesterday (Friday night)? I stayed in my room and watched movies and went on my computer. I was very happy. All the rest of the college students were out partying. I was perfectly content being away from all that noise. I hate going out, especially with peers. I don't see the point in it. You have to work around them, when it's far better to just be by yourself doing your own thing. I even eat by myself 9 times out of 10 because, that way, I don't have to worry about waiting for people to arrive or waiting for them to finish eating when I want to leave and not have to talk, and I can do my movie quotes or talk to myself when I eat by myself. It's an ideal situation. My mom often worries just like you. "Did you eat with somebody today?" "No." Once in awhile, I'll eat with one of my two peer friends, the one who has mild Asperger's, because he hates sitting around, too, but I only do this when we get together to watch a movie or something. This happens a couple times a month. I almost never leave my dorm room on the weekends. I literally have left my room once today, and that was simply to go to the bathroom. Am I bored or lonely? Hell, no! I am my best companion... If you have any questions, feel free to ask. I'd love to try to help you understand. If I recall correctly, your son is the one who also likes to talk to himself and draws in the air? Your son and I seem to have a lot in common.
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Re: should i stop worrying?

GatsbyLuvr1920, thanks... yes i am the one who asked the question on the drawing in the air...i just feel like he is lonely..usually when we have company..like my friends with their kids...by the way most of my friends kids are alot younger, or his siblings friends he seems happy to have something going on here....i guess i will always worry about him just like your mom worries about you should i ask him if he wants me to hang with him?? well actually i do sometimes..sometimes he is like huh no i want to be alone and other times he is like OK lets watch family guy..he loves loves that show...it is just hard to see my other kids be so social...i guess i just have to learn that is not how Dev is..thanks

 
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Re: should i stop worrying?

I spend much of my time at home, writing, going on the Internet, and spending time with my cats. I am very happy.

 
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Re: should i stop worrying?

It may kind of seem selfish, but the social ball is in the Aspie's court. We'll come around when we want to socialize. I only go out with my two friends when I want to. If I get the urge to be with them, I'LL call them. They know that. My mom does, too. If I don't want to do something, she doesn't push me.
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