Re: Risks of having another child with Autism
To what genetic markers do you refer, Callista? I am just curious as I haven't come across that information myself yet.
Ruby, I was in your shoes once. I had a 12 year old daughter and then a 9 year old son and the 9 year old had Asperger's. My Asperger's child has been a real challenge from a behavioral point of view and back in those days he took all my time, attention and energy. I got remarried at that time and my new husband really wanted a child of his own. I was scared to death to have another as I was afraid of raising another child like my asperger's child, and I just didn't feel like I had it in me to do that! But my new husband had been fathering my 2 children from my first marriage, and I felt he had earned the right to have one of his own, so we went ahead and got pregnant. To make a long story short, we did end up with another autistic child, the youngest one being even more severely affected than his older brother. BUT that little boy is the light of my life! His temperament is completely different from his brother's and he has been much easier to handle. I also like to think that he's been easier too because I learned so much from parenting the first child! After Zach (the youngest child) was born I hurried up and got my tubes tied to prevent anymore pregnancies because I was still scared of more autism at that point. I honestly regret that action now and if I could I'd try to have one more child. If the child was autistic, then so be it! There are many different ways to look at the situation, but my beliefs are that God has created all types of people and all those types of people are valuable. I believe God gave me a second special child to raise because I did well with the first one, and if he gave me a third it would just be that much more of an honor to me.
Ruby, if you want another child, go for it! You will love that child no matter what, and that child's life will have value no matter what! And just like me, I'll bet you have learned a lot too from parenting the first special child in your family.
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