I have Asperger's, and being an Aspie, I have trouble with broad questions, especially ones about my feelings. That kind of sums it up right there- it's very difficult for those on the spectrum to describe his/her feelings. Half of the time I'm upset, I have no idea why I'm upset at all. It isn't until minutes to hours to even days after my tantrums that I realize why I reacted the way I did. I'm sure a big issue with your brother and his behavior is abrupt change/interruption from routine, and sensory issues. Those two are pretty much universal "autistic triggers," if you ask me. I don't know how to describe why these two make me upset. I guess the best way to explain it is that the sensory issues are just plain painful and disorientating and change doesn't allow you to do what YOU want. Hope this helped somewhat. Good luck, God bless, and if you have any questions, feel free to ask!
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