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Old 02-02-2009, 08:24 AM   #1
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Question Could my sister have autism? Please help!

Hello all!

My sister is 12 years old and I think that she may have autism. She has a very hard time relating to me and other family members and it is hard for her to have conversations with me. When I try to talk to her she is very quiet, won't look at me or will only answer in short sentences. She sometimes tells me that she doesn't want to talk and has gotten angry if I try to hug her or speak to her. She can speak fluently but she does have a speech impedement.

She can't take care of her self. At 12 years old me and my other sister could easily get ourselves dressed and groomed properly before school. We could organize ourselves. My sister tries very hard to look "cool". She tries hard to look pretty but for some reason her hair is always messy and her clothes are often wrinkled. She will put things on backward and will get stains on her shirt after eating.She is made fun of for being different. She tries to make friends and loves people but it seems to be very difficult for her to have friends. She also can't take care of other things. She got a pet turtle and she loved it very much. She spent a lot of time taking pictures of it and bragging about it. However, she could not keep it's water clean. She would forget to feed it and would not put on it's heating light sometimes. It hurts me to know that she is trying so hard but can't seem to do what she wants to.

She has trouble at school and it is hell trying to help her with homework. She gets very frustrated when you tell her she did something wrong on her worksheet. She has finally begun to get B's after getting failing grades. However, I believe her teachers are giving her less work than the other students. They have had her in special classes for math only. And they have had special teachers come and help her with certain things. However, the school says that she is not learning disabled and say she is too bright to be in a special education class. (My sister's intelligence is above average)

My sister is very violent at times as well. She has hit me, spit at me, and has thrown objects at me simply because I have told her she needed to help do the dishes or help me with something. She often yells and slams her door. Everyday their is some sort of tantrum.

She stays in her room alone a lot and preoccupies herself with random objects around her room and house. We will tell her to clean her room and an hour later, nothing will be done and she will be sitting down glued to the tv or observing a piece of paper or clothing item. She will just sit thier seemingly in her own world.

I have just found out that as a small child she had developmental issues. She learned to speak much later than me and my sister. Her social skills were very delayed.

My mother feels like she won't get any help with my sister. We feel very scared that my sister will never live a normal life. She has been diagnosed with ADD in the past but I believe that her social issues are much worse than any thing else. And what with her developmental problems early as a child, it may be more than just ADD. I told my mother that we should take her to the doctor and maybe even see a child development specialist. Yet, my mother feels that it wouldn't help.

Any suggestions are welcomed. If you have experience with autism or know a teen/older child with autism please respond. I would like to know if these problems are similar to yours.

Thank you very much

 
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Old 02-02-2009, 01:21 PM   #2
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Re: Could my sister have autism? Please help!

Please contact your counselors at school for possible information on Autism.

 
Old 02-03-2009, 10:10 AM   #3
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I work with the special education program and have talked to the teachers there. I just wanted to see if anyone could tell me if they have had similar experiences with someone that has autism. There are some autistic children that I work with but they are severely so. I have never met someone who had a milder case on the spectrum.

 
Old 02-03-2009, 09:44 PM   #4
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Hi - your sister, first of all, is very lucky to have such a devoted family. To me your sister shows many of the signs of Aspergers Disorder which is a high functioning type of autism. IMO she would benefit from an evaluation by a psychologist who could then rec'd counseling services and supports throughout her teenage years, which could be difficult without her feeling that she is understood.

 
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Hi There!
I have a son who is 14 and is mildly autistic. He is in is an honor roll student in a regular high school, but has an instuctional plan tailored to his needs (IEP - Individual Instruction Plan)
I agree with Mira11. Definitly have your sister evaluated. But by a child development specialist. A clinical psychologist can do a thorough evaluation/testing. A pediatric neurologist can also make a diagnosis, but I don't think they can do anything supportive to help your sister. Neuro's are known to just prescribe drugs.
My 12 year old had 8 hours worth of testing over a 3 month period with a clinica psychologist, just last year. He was diagnosed with ADHD & surface dyslexia. The dr actually went to my sons school to participate in a meeting, to help them understand how it is best to teach him. This is a child that doesn't even have focusing issues in school! He has organizational problems...
You are a wonderful sister! You will climb a mountain in the begining of your journey, but YOU WILL reach the top!!!
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Old 02-04-2009, 02:23 PM   #6
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My step-daughter has a disorder that is a combination of Autism and Aspbergers. She was diagnosed when we sent her to a "brat" camp. I had some concerns that she was autistic when she was young but she did so well in other areas that I thought maybe not. It wasn't until she was a teenager that her behavior got worse. Her diagnosis was over the course of 3 days and included interviews with her peers which was also VERY enlightening. Her official diagnosis is PDD-NOS (pervasive developmental disorder-not otherwise specified). She has had trouble keeping friends, self grooming was a BIG issue (she would take 30 minute to put on shoes and socks because the socks were bugging her), she is obsessive over her homework (it HAS to be perfect). Very easy for her to have a tantrum now (she is 17) and all through her childhood (she doesn't live with us full-time so I thought she was just spoiled - so wrong about that). She has a difficult time understanding how she effects others. There are conversations that result in screaming and crying because "we just don't understand" her that usually are from giving her a "no" answer to something she would like. She has no sense of time. By this I mean she still doesn't understand how to tell time unless it's a face clock - she doesn't understand digital time - all this from a straight "A" calculus student - but when you have this disorder you're helpless and not everyone has the same exact issues. You need lots of understanding from your family and friends.
Anyway, sounds like you're a wonderful sister for seeing that there's something that just needs further investigating. I wish I would have pushed more for my Step-Daughter when she was younger. It would have helped to avoid so much heartache for her and all of us to have known about this earlier. In our situation her disorder developed into a deep depression - this isn't unusual either - and we very nearly lost her. At least your sister will have a better chance.

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Re: Could my sister have autism? Please help!

Can anyone tell me if a austic child who is very mellow at the age of 7 and non-verbal can develope anger signs in his teens?

 
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My son, who is now 14, was always the most mellow, angelic child. Until the past year, when he started high school. Hormones, and external stresses play a role.
It's something to watch out for. It doesn't necessarily mean it will be the case for all autistic teens. -My son is verbal. I say that because you had asked about non-verbal teens. Though my son was always the quiet type.
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SJS40--thanks for your post. We pray everyday for all the children and adults with autism. I believe you are right. The older the kids get and the hormones begin to kick in, there will be changes. Have a wonderful and God bless

 
Old 02-07-2009, 09:10 AM   #10
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You are a very astute girl and your sister is very lucky to have you as a sister. What you are describing does sound like autism, however it is very easy to mistake other things for autism, which are far less serious. You say your sister has a speech impediment, this might make her more reluctant to communicate and socialise, which are symptoms of autism. - So you see what I mean about how easy it is to mistake other things for it? I think you should talk things through with your Mom again, explain your fears and worries and try to get your Mom to take your sister to see a developmental psychologist. My own little boy has autism and we take him to a place called 'Snowdrop.' I appreciate that you are in the US, but there must be people like that over there? I hope you sort this problem out. Best wishes.

 
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