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Old 10-13-2009, 12:12 AM   #1
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Hi, I'm new to the boards but needed some help from someone that has autistic child/ren..
I think my son may be autistic however, he doesn't seem to fall into all the categories. I would like to list the things that has me concerned and get someone's advice whether or not these symptoms seem to be autistic. We took our son to his dr. when he was 2 1/2 because even then we were concerned but he told us that he didn't feel that our son had autism .. now my son is 5 and it isn't any better. We are going to get him evaluated by specialists to if nothing else, put our minds at ease. Until then, I was wondering what you guys had to say?
Here are the symptoms:

He has to have routine if the routine isn't the same, he gets anxious
He won't eat certain foods if it looks funny or has "strings" like a banana or cheese if its melted or stringy he won't eat it even though he loves them
he is 5 and still can't talk plain . he had a language delay and still have trouble understanding him at times
his motor skills are very behind, he can't button his shirt, zip his pants or dress himself.
He can't color in lines or trace his name or even draw a stick man
seems sensitive to sounds at times

Although he does all those things, he loves to play w/ children, he makes good eye contact and is a very loving child.. wants hugs and kisses,wants me to hold him

So I guess I'm asking is, even tho he has the symptoms above, can a child w/ autism still want to be touched and to play w/ other children? And if it isn't autism, does anyone else have an idea of what he may have? Thank you everyone for your help. I'm just a very concerned mother looking for answers.

 
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Old 10-13-2009, 11:24 AM   #2
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Re: New here, could someone help?

That sounds almost same as my symptoms with aspergers so he definitely has AS or another branch of autism

All autistic people are different they each have a variance in symptoms.

So one aspergers could be friendly extrovert and outgoing yet another aspergers is introvert

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Old 10-13-2009, 11:43 AM   #3
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Thank you for your reply. I'm taking him to the dr next week to figure out what we need to do for him. May I ask what treatment options there are for a child w/ autism or a form thereof?
Thanks again

 
Old 10-13-2009, 07:36 PM   #4
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Hi. My son was similar. I had to call the local school to get him evaluated by the special ed department. If they are on the milder end of the autism scale, say Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) or Pervasive Developmental Disorder-Not Otherwise specified, (PDD-NOS), they won't have all of the symptoms and may have some really odd ones.

As for treatment, the holistic/natural treatments helped him a lot. The younger they are, the more effective the treatments are. I recommend a book you can get at Barnes & Noble called Autism and Pervasive Developmental Disorder, A Mother's Journey. By Karen Serosi. I hope I spelled that right. I like that book to into anyone into natural medicine, because she came from a family of MDs, and her husband is a researcher for Johnson & Johnson. Also go to Autism Research Institue web site and get info from them. Vitamin b was a great help for my son, as were homeopathic allergy treatments. He was diagnosed PDD-NOS, with a 40% delay, and Children's just told me he is functioning at Aspergers, and is operating with a less than 20% delay. Big diff!

Hope this helps

 
Old 10-13-2009, 08:44 PM   #5
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I keep hearing about parents talking to the baby's primary care docs and being told its not autism. I honestly don't think they know enough about autism to make that call. I'm a firm believer in parents intuition, and if you think there is something 'off' about your baby, get a referral to a specialist! Early Intervention can't do any good if you don't get to it.

 
Old 10-13-2009, 10:11 PM   #6
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thank you everyone for your replys you are really helping me! I am only going to his dr this time to be referred to specialists so his insurance will cover.
If a child w/ aspergers or autism can't dress themselves or master handwriting for instance, will they ever be able to do these things?

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Old 10-14-2009, 03:47 PM   #7
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btw forgot to say treatments are speech therapy and physiotherapy

also psychologists help a lot

 
Old 10-15-2009, 07:39 AM   #8
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My son is 18 and never really improved his handwriting much. Does not do cursive writing...I have seen in other countries that they teach cursive writing and skip the printing. Maybe that would have worked better for my son. His small motor skills (large too) are not that great. He never really liked to color in coloring books...tried to find something to improve his small motor, he liked doing mazes, you can get books of mazes. Also try to get him to do something, anything working with his hands. Using play dough, or any of that squishy stuff. Small pieces to build stuff with, the small size Legos. Bring him to a toy store and let him find something that might interest him. Even doing paper mache' projects, anything you can interest him in using small motor skills.

 
Old 10-15-2009, 02:27 PM   #9
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My son is 18 and never really improved his handwriting much. Does not do cursive writing...I have seen in other countries that they teach cursive writing and skip the printing. Maybe that would have worked better for my son. His small motor skills (large too) are not that great. He never really liked to color in coloring books...tried to find something to improve his small motor, he liked doing mazes, you can get books of mazes. Also try to get him to do something, anything working with his hands. Using play dough, or any of that squishy stuff. Small pieces to build stuff with, the small size Legos. Bring him to a toy store and let him find something that might interest him. Even doing paper mache' projects, anything you can interest him in using small motor skills.
Yes, that sounds familiar. So much variation in learning. My son is advanced in reading, but only on the subjects he likes. Writing is hard for him and many others. Some do much better typing. You are right that to help with his skills, it must be something he likes.

 
Old 10-15-2009, 02:33 PM   #10
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Check out the laws in your state. It varies, but in some states, for any help it must go through the welfare health care system. In PA almost everything had to be taken care of through the welfare card. We didn't want to use the Access Card, and paid all deductables and co-pays out of our savings. It really set us back, and now I wish I hadn't been so proud. It cost us a house of our own. To find out, call Head Start, and ask for any parent support groups. Those groups can really help with info and ideas.

 
Old 10-15-2009, 05:57 PM   #11
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I don't think that necessarily sounds like autism.

Lots of kids are fussy about food. My three are. My youngest won't eat bananas with the strings on, another one won't eat a mandarin unless he's picked all the white bits off. None of them will eat an apple with a blemish in the skin.

Your son is only five. Lots of children can't colour between the lines at 5, and it can take years for the fine motor coordination to kick in enough for their handwriting to be good.

I'm not saying your son definitely doesn't have autism but from what you've said, I wouldn't say he definitely does. And there are such varying degrees of autism as well - he might have it but it might be very mild. Some sort of intervention might help with the dressing/writing but I wouldn't be too eager to jam a label on him.

Just my opinion!

 
Old 10-15-2009, 07:31 PM   #12
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Thank you everyone for your replys!
James (our son) is improving on his fine motor skills we just had a parent/teacher meeting tonight (he's in Pre-K) and he wasnt able to cut paper at all w/ scissors before starting school (just 2 mos ago) and now he's able to do that. He still has trouble w/ his writing but the teacher sees improvement.
His speech is the main concern and they are starting speech therapy. We may be overly concerned parents but I know James has certain things that has to be a certain way or he gets upset. The magnets on the refrigerator has to be in a straight line.. if I mess them up, he lines them back up for me.
He can't dress himself and will repeat sentences sometimes over again.
It may be typical 5 yr old behavior IDK. He's our first child and we may be overly concerned. We are taking him to children's to get him evaluated to be safe.
*sigh* being a parent is hard work! LOL

 
Old 10-16-2009, 04:10 PM   #13
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Originally Posted by chris0118 View Post
Hi, I'm new to the boards but needed some help from someone that has autistic child/ren..
I think my son may be autistic however, he doesn't seem to fall into all the categories. I would like to list the things that has me concerned and get someone's advice whether or not these symptoms seem to be autistic. We took our son to his dr. when he was 2 1/2 because even then we were concerned but he told us that he didn't feel that our son had autism .. now my son is 5 and it isn't any better. We are going to get him evaluated by specialists to if nothing else, put our minds at ease. Until then, I was wondering what you guys had to say?
Here are the symptoms:

He has to have routine if the routine isn't the same, he gets anxious
He won't eat certain foods if it looks funny or has "strings" like a banana or cheese if its melted or stringy he won't eat it even though he loves them
he is 5 and still can't talk plain . he had a language delay and still have trouble understanding him at times
his motor skills are very behind, he can't button his shirt, zip his pants or dress himself.
He can't color in lines or trace his name or even draw a stick man
seems sensitive to sounds at times

Although he does all those things, he loves to play w/ children, he makes good eye contact and is a very loving child.. wants hugs and kisses,wants me to hold him

So I guess I'm asking is, even tho he has the symptoms above, can a child w/ autism still want to be touched and to play w/ other children? And if it isn't autism, does anyone else have an idea of what he may have? Thank you everyone for your help. I'm just a very concerned mother looking for answers.
HI,

I have an 8 years old son, asthma kid, highly allergic. Only son.

At the age of 3 he was attending school. He didnt even knew how to go to the bathroom and pee. I had to patch his underwears with parts of a diaper and sew it, so the teachers wouldnt notice. They knew at some point..

Complains regarding my son to be "odd", very poor motor skills, couldnt draw (or didnt feel like drawing), and be more to play alone than with other kids.
also, they bother a lot about sounds, like house alarm, and his speach was a bit complicated to understand. He had every exam done, phonoaudiologyst, neurologyst, and school "evaluation" (irresponsible opinions based on kids drawings...). For the speach and languaje, he went with a languaje disorder therapist, basically, a person helped with "R" and other languaje dificulties, 2 sesions a week. languaje improved!.

for the other complains regarding my son to be odd, and poor cordinated and not willing to make drawings or dress, both neurologyst and pediatrician told me that schools always pester parents with complains in order to make their job easier. My son wasnt a sporty kid then, or liked paint, but it will in time, they said. Scanners and test went all normal bythewaY.

When my son was in 1 grade school told me he wouldnt not write or make maths, that i needed a psychologist, that I needed an exorcist, you name it...
I couldnt understand why the pressure, it was so stressing for me, I felt devastated until my pediatrician told me not to listen. He supported me, says is a normal kid, do nothing.

Short story, now he is 8, is amazing learner, excellent student, amazing with maths, play tennis, have friends,, play computer....

Im so glad I waited, I never listen those ∑%$∑%$∑%$∑ /(sorry), that I never gave ritalin to my kid or to the psychologist or made his life chaotic. I just waited, I acepted him as he was, supported him.

 
Old 10-16-2009, 07:01 PM   #14
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HI,

I have an 8 years old son, asthma kid, highly allergic. Only son.

At the age of 3 he was attending school. He didnt even knew how to go to the bathroom and pee. I had to patch his underwears with parts of a diaper and sew it, so the teachers wouldnt notice. They knew at some point..

Complains regarding my son to be "odd", very poor motor skills, couldnt draw (or didnt feel like drawing), and be more to play alone than with other kids.
also, they bother a lot about sounds, like house alarm, and his speach was a bit complicated to understand. He had every exam done, phonoaudiologyst, neurologyst, and school "evaluation" (irresponsible opinions based on kids drawings...). For the speach and languaje, he went with a languaje disorder therapist, basically, a person helped with "R" and other languaje dificulties, 2 sesions a week. languaje improved!.

for the other complains regarding my son to be odd, and poor cordinated and not willing to make drawings or dress, both neurologyst and pediatrician told me that schools always pester parents with complains in order to make their job easier. My son wasnt a sporty kid then, or liked paint, but it will in time, they said. Scanners and test went all normal bythewaY.

When my son was in 1 grade school told me he wouldnt not write or make maths, that i needed a psychologist, that I needed an exorcist, you name it...
I couldnt understand why the pressure, it was so stressing for me, I felt devastated until my pediatrician told me not to listen. He supported me, says is a normal kid, do nothing.

Short story, now he is 8, is amazing learner, excellent student, amazing with maths, play tennis, have friends,, play computer....

Im so glad I waited, I never listen those ∑%$∑%$∑%$∑ /(sorry), that I never gave ritalin to my kid or to the psychologist or made his life chaotic. I just waited, I acepted him as he was, supported him.
Thank you for sharing your story. I am so glad your story had a happy ending and your son is doing great.
I hope James will be the same. We are just taking it day by day. I think we are getting him evaluted to just get an opinion to see what they think.. I think at times we are being overly concerned and at other times, we need to be concerned kwim?
Thank you again for sharing your story. Its very inspiring!

 
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Hi there Chris,
Anther really good resource to turn to is your local regional Center. They will evaluate your child. And specialize in people with developmental disabiltes. They also pay for services if the person is disabled. It is a lifelong program.
Your local School District should have already done a evaluation on your child. You mentioned that he is recieving speech therapy so assume that he has already had one? By law the school district is required to provide services . Was there any IEP made for your child through the school district?
You childs Ped. Can give you referrals to Child Neurolgists, Child specialists , development, for a full in depth evaluation .
However the Regional Center is the best way to go , for in depth evaluations. Early intervention is so important , if your child falls under the autistic spectrum because many of the behaviors of autism can be corrected while the brain is still not fully developed.

 
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