Thank you so much for your support, sjs40 and Mira11! I really appreciate just being able to vent and have people understand.
You both mentioned going a legal route, which we have done. We opted not to go through Due Process because of the length of time it was taking. The school district took their full 45 days just to get us a copy of our child's file to even start the ball rolling. That was completely unacceptable to us. I pulled our child out of school for a while until a new "emergency plan" could be put together. Then, I did a lot of research and came up with possible intervention models, then presented them to the school. Only then did they admit that they had people who had already been trained in the particular interventions. Once those autism specialists came on board, it got better, but our child still hasn't fully recovered from the regression. It's very frustrating.
Our lawyer told us that under normal circumstances, we had a "slam-dunk" Due Process case. She told me, however, that there are several Due Process hearing officers in this state who side with the school every time and that the appeals process is significantly weighted towards the school district. We just had to weigh our options and since the school district was offering a positive change, we took the opportunity.
Right now in this state (and most other states as well), there are absolutely no laws or regulations that limit the use of the time out room or any other method of seclusion and restraint. There are also laws in place right now that protect teachers if a child is injured during any type of corporal punishment. So, either way, the school is protected in this instance. We went to the Department of Education and they just wanted to call the district and have a "chat" with the administrators prior to us filing a formal complaint - which is completely inappropriate. I think I mentioned before that CPS wouldn't do anything, either.
It's frustrating to go through the right channels to get the help needed and have those channels refuse to help. It leaves the parents with no options but to wage a very exhausting battle.
Thank you, again, for listening!