Re: PDD Question.
You are already doing what's best for your daughter. You know best what she needs. I encountered the same school environment 15 years ago, and they thought all the problems were because of me or because my son was "rebelious". They didn't have a clue how to deal with Aspergers, and nothing was ever their fault.
It sounds like your daughter is focusing on her faults - what others can do that she can't. It's very hard for us to recognize our strengths. They just seem normal to us, and nothing to speak about. It never occurs to us that other people can't do what we can do, only that they can do things we can't. One thing that helped me with this was learning about the Myers-Briggs Personality Types (MBTI). I found my type, which is an INTJ. Much of the literature lists both the strengths and the weaknesses of each type. I totally related to the weaknesses, but found it almost impossible to believe the strengths. It took months of study, evaluating myself, observing myself in action, and talking to friends about it before I could see my own strengths. And I was about age 35 when this happened.
This social skills therapy will be very good for her. She will meet others who need to learn the same skills, so will be less embarassed about it. The kids will learn how to interact and talk about various topics in a safe environment. They will teach her how to do small talk, and why it's important. Some of these groups even take the kids out to eat so they can learn appropriate social behavior in public. I always find learning easier when in a group of other people who are as ignorant as I am on the subject. That way my flubs don't stand out, because we're all messing up, and laughing about it, instead of hanging our heads in shame.
Your daughter will probably do better in one-on-one situations with friends, so I would encourage you to let her go visit friends, or have one at a time come over. Let her and her friend be by themselves, doing whatever they enjoy. She will learn communication this way. Multiple friends at once are fun sometimes, but if she's like me, she will clam up as you add more people to the mix, and not get as much practice "doing", though even observing conversations is helpful.
Last edited by roses4lace; 08-01-2010 at 05:27 PM.