For starts, living in NY, you have so many services available for your daughter. You can go to the school counselor or psychologist and get a full evaluation started. It's a bunch of paper pushing, and the process, once you sign papers, begins usually in a month to start, depending on their current case load. The evaluation can last a couple of weeks during the school session.
I suggest you also take her to a pediatric neurologist and have her evaluated. - & Doing it with the school, will give her a specialized educational program, tailored to her needs.
HFA? Possibly. Sounds like she definitely has a sensory disorder & ADD, which explains the focusing. It's great that she is interacting with other kids. Social withdrawal is one big issue with autism.
My 16 year old son is HFA and his a 13 year old brother has a sensory disorder. All four of my children have ADD.
Going to the pediatric neuro, and the schools is how the process is usually starts. Hope this helps!
Hi - I would strongly reccomend having your daughter evaluated by a child neurologist or child psychiatrist to get a complete picture. It sounds like she might have Asperger's or ADD with sensory issues as well. There are lots of interventions and a professional who is knowledgeable will be able to get you started. You can also request an evaluation from your school district and then see what kinds of services they have for her. The imporant thing is to get some therapeutic services going for her and both you and she will feel a lot better because of it.
TQ so much for a response!
Originally they thought was mental illness due to my wife was psycho temper & hit kids a lot & didn't touch them a lot when they were little. Now daughter is older, out of school, & has isolated very much. If I have guests over, it is rare she will ever come out to meet them. If she bumps into family friends known before, it is very akward for her past "hi"
She can go out & get chores done in town but keeps to self.
If someone gets too close, talks too loud, stares too long, she has said it too much & she wants to flee. As long as they keep distance, not pay too much close attention, she can be around crowds.
But I do worry the time she spends alone.
She is almost like home bound like "hikikomori" (Japanese for "shut in") unless something needed.
She has expressed she wants to interact with others like she sees other, but imitation is sometimes hard for her & she just feels so awkward & tired of others getting angry or acting weirded out when she acts odd (e.g. when a friend tries to hug her or verbally teases her, pretending hand is snake or something getting her). I don't know but it works her up easily, is weak nerves or over sensitive to stimuli, etc.
A shrink said possible HFA,I will further look into this as you said!
Sounds a lot like my kids as well. I agree with all the other recommendations. I agree with the ADHD with sensory processing issues and hope you will research to learn about a sensory diet. Auditory processing sounds like an issue as well. There are two programs that my kids and I did to help these issues. You may want to research into alternative therapies. Keep in mind that research shows that kids with ADHD are 3 years delayed for their age so they are more immature.