Re: Toilet Training/Pull Ups
Hate to say it, but i just doesn't sound like your son is mentally ready for toilet training. Boys especially take longer and since autism is a play, there is no magic age for readiness. My autistic son was finally toilet trained the summer before he was to start Kindergarten, which was just shy of his 5th birthday. I really wasn't sure if he was going to be able to start Kindergarten, but a huge sigh of relief that he made it.
There are catchy 'potty' videos that you son can watch and start singing to and becoming comfortable with the whole scenario. I did this my son, but it was a long time ago, so I am sorry, but I can't give a title. Maybe your library has something.
Reward charts helped also, to work toward a toy they want. One sticker for doing #1, and two stickers for #2 in the porta potty. If ou don't have a porta potty, you might consider one. There is less fear since it is closer to the ground and there is less of a 'drop' down. The whole flushing down in water can be a scary thought to a kid that's siting on one.
For now, don't make a fuss over toileting. If you can, get the DVD and let him watch at least once a day. 2 weeks later, see if he'd be interested in earning a toy with going where he's supposed to.
Hope this helps! God Bless!