I have an 11 yr old son with autism, I try to teach him to be as normal as possible, but I need help with him staying focused in school and he gets angry easily about the smallest things and throws tantrams for example he has to be the first to the car....any advice?
Being Autistic is a gift and i work on one thing at a time and i wouldn't try to make him act normal he may be acting out because of that. My daughter has to be first our of the car too and it is a new behavior i don't know if it is for control or something that makes her feel ok and right to do. Tell me more about your son.
I think that a behavior specialist might be able to help you analyze the behaviors and what sets them off and how you can give your son choices to help avoid some of the anger. Ask around for some referrals - the school or your pediatrician might have some names.
Re. the focusing in school, at some point he may benefit from medication especially as he gets older. This is something you could discuss with a child neurologist, even now might be a good time to get a referral from your ped. and set up an appointment.
Hiya, I'm Cordelia and my brother has autism.
He goes to a special school for people with disorders and disabilities like Autism, Dislexia and ADHD. Maybe that would help put him with people who are like him and a more specialised learning enviroment where teachers can pay attention to his unique needs and proffessionals can help teach him to stay focused?
As far as getting angry at little things that is just a part of autism. You should be patient with him and don't get angry, just try to calm him down and be understanding. Treat him with respect though, because talking to him like he is a baby will only make him feel patronized, not a good thing when it comes to autism. It s probably that things he does like having to be the first into the car make him feel less agitated, angry, stressed.
Maybe get him to speak to a specialist who can figure out why he does these things, because knowing why is the first step to making him more 'normal'?
Hope this helps!
Your son can't help it. My son is now 15 yrs old and he has not been diagnosed with autism, but he has been diagnosed with some symptoms of autism. As a result at age 11, I had to put him on home school. That was the best thing I could have done for him. He is so much more calm now and happier and still getting good grades. Our school district provided a teacher to come to our house three times a week. Putting an child with autistic symptoms in a school with children who are not dealing with the same issues, causes the child to have anxiety. Expected them to act "normal" causes them even more anxiety. I also had my son receive Occupational Therapy for a 6 month period of time which also helped him a lot. Check out the GAPS Diet. This explains what we should be feeding children who are dealing with symptoms of autism. And it also explains what these children are dealing with. Emotionally, the symptoms really take a toll on a child. Take care.
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