I think my 11y.o. son has aspergers
I am new to the board. I am the adoptive mom of four great kid's. My older 3 children were placed with us at the ages of 2,3, and 5. They are now 11,12 and 14.
I am very worried about my youngest son who is now 11. I took him to the behavior psychologist at the age of 6. He told me "while I think your son has symptoms of aspergers, I am positive it is reactive attachment disorder." Honestly as an inexperienced mother I just went with what he said. At the age of 8 he was Dx'ed with ADHD and started medication. His medication calmed him down making his behaviors easier to handle, until now. He is home schooled and is very smart. He has trouble making/keeping friends, shows little empathy, obsesses over many things, he does repetitive things like poking holes in his bedroom walls, obsesses over many things, can not make eye contact when speaking, has some anger issues and more.....
I just don't know where to start. I feel terrible that he is 11 and I am just now thinking it's aspergers. Is it to late to help him? I do not have a ton of faith in the child psychologist at the children's hospital since they are the ones I took him to at the age of 6. I really feel like they saw he was adopted and went right to RAD with little regard to what I was telling them. Do you think he has enough symptoms to warrant an appointment at the autism clinic? Should I start with the pediatrician?
I just want the best for my son and I am so new to this I don't know where to start. Thank you in advance for your help and advice.