Re: Just been told my grandson is autistic
Hi my son is 3 and recently been diagnosed with autism and yes it comes as a huge shock even if you are expecting it. I had my suspicions however felt confused as he has some language and like your grandson he does not respond to questions very well, he will also repeat himself frequently.
He will often respond to a question by repeating it or always give the same answer.
He has huge rages on and off all day and will also kick, bite, hair pull, throw everything in his path and bang his head. We often have to restrain him. Its incredibly difficult as anything can set him off and he reacts so suddenly and often we don't know why.My son has sensory difficulties, and this effects his behaviour.It may be worth watching your gson and to see if his behaviour changes if it is noisy or the room is busy, any smells perfume etc, the lighting. All these things can effect behaviour and he probably would not be able to tell you if these things were bothering him.
He also does not react the same way to his grandparents.He used to get excited when he saw his gdad and play a game with him, now he for the most part ignores them and plays his own game, if they ask for a hug he says no in a rather cold tone.It is very upsetting,
I do not know about regression as my son showed signs as a baby, however different things seemed to develop at different times, such as hand flapping and toe walking which he never did as a baby although he never responded to his name until after the age of two or show good eye contact.
Regarding speech he had 4 words at 2, 15 words at 2yrs 4 months and it then progressed to learnt phrases which he'd repeat. Now at 3 and a half he has just started to put together some short sentences although he uses lots of echolalia and his understanding is at about the 18month level.
He is obsessed with thomas tank and will act out short snippets from the dvds which he repeats over and over and will not let us play unless he dictates exactly what he wants us to do often by forcing us by grabbing our hands and if we don't he will rage.
My son attends a specialist centre for autistic children and we have been adviced to play alongside him and mimic his play until he notices and then to do something different so as to encourage interaction. This may help your relationship.
I try to bring something fun into the play, like the other day he was playing trains and I placed a tray next to him with soap bubbles on and pushed some of his trains through it. It gained his attention immediately and we even played hide the trains. It was good because he joined in my game and I never intruded on his and he enjoyed th interaction.
I hope I may have helped and please feel free to ask any questions you may have, I know how difficult this is to except. I am still going through it. Take care