I need your help to see if this child has autism or not.
The kid is about 25 months old. She does not speak at all but makes sounds. Tries silently by moving her lips but then gives up and make a laugh, IMO trying to change the subject out of embarrassment. She's in a bilingual home and recently moved to USA from a non-English speaking country.
If she needs something she takes someone, anyone, by the hand and yells until they grab the right thing.
She eats everything, has has favs but eats everything.
She is extremely fit and has no problems walking, maintaining balance or running.
She is extremely careful on the stairs, chairs and what not.
If we tell her not to touch something, she will not touch it. Has the notion of "fear" from parents.
She will turns her head when mom\dad call her but less for others.
She never put anything she finds on the floor on her mouth, never as far as know.
She does eye contact especially with the closest people to her. Sometimes is he senses we're mad at her she purposefully avoids it.
As long as you do whatever she wants (carry her in her arms especially) she will be friendly with you.
She does a lot of make believe play - hide and seek, cell phone talk (babbles) and seeks people to play with her. She tries to bring attention to herself, especially when she is "punished" or when she senses that we're mad at her.
She lines things sometimes but only to mix them right after. Also puts cans of soda 3 high but to drop them and start fresh. Ditto with Coca Cola bottles.
Is fixated on a few things like smoke.
Out of the blue she will try to get someone's attention to play a game they played together 2-3 months ago.
Eats with fork and spoon. Drinks from bottles, glasses and even cans. If it's spilled or in the very rare occasion a glass breaks she gets very mad.
If she is at fault and we "punish" her, she accepts it, when she's misunderstood or she thinks it's unfair she'll scream and cry
She seems very calculating and patient to get what she wants. Will try to make you laugh, act as friend, act nice etc etc...
She still does it in the underwear /diaper but holds for a long time and knows she did something bad when that happens (backs away when we point it out or try to touch the area) and tries to change the conversation.
Walks on her toes but maybe 0.1% of the time or less than a few yards a week.
Any general suggestions? I know it cannot substitute a doctor's opinion.