I just finished reading a book on pain. It gave me an entirely new perspective on pain. I had researched and read as much as I could on the net and could not find any answers to what was bothering me, why were people who had surgery, still experiencing pain. I had wandered over to the pain management boards and found some of the people there who couldn't find relief here.
I happened to be at a yard sale when I picked up a book which I had never heard of before, "The Gift That No One Wants". That title peaked my interest, but what really peaked it was the word, PAIN
, in big letters.
I moved right through this book. It is well written and addressed everything that I has searched for when it came to understanding pain.
It took me two days to move through it. Today I came to the computer to look the book up. The author, I believe, is still alive, unlike the last book that I read about back pain, where the author was dead.
It was like when you are explaining something to a kid and you try several different methods to explain it and finally a light goes off over their head. The light went off for me, finally, when I read this book. Or on, I should say.
I have been chasing down possible cures for my pain with primaries, specialists, PT, shots, chiroprators, tests, tests, tests, manipulations, Prolo, stretches, Yoga, Pilates, walking anything to ease the pain and to understand it. All I wanted was to be pain free. After reading this book, which I have no financial stake in and am NOT promoting, I am going to sit down and become friends with my pain and quit trying to fight it, but to listen to it and then to learn to live with it and around it.
Someone asked about talking to people about their pain. There is a great passage in the book that addresses that very issue. I don't have the book in front of me right now, but will post it later.
I am not selling this book, I am not even sure where to buy it because I got it at a yard sale. I am strongly suggesting that anyone here who is in pain and wants to get a handle on it, and has the time to read it, it is a great read.
I was chasing my tail. Everyday I tried to find different ways to cope with my pain and live my life without relying on drugs. I was sure that there was a cure out there if I read enough. I came to these boards to try to find someone who had the answers.
The boards are great. It brings people together who share an exerience, pain. People will figure out on their own when to move on. I am not so sure now that people moved on because they got better with surgery, but maybe they moved on because they learned to live with the pain.
I am not saying that relief is not possible with surgery, I think that with surgery, a person needs to realize that it is not the end all. The book helped me to realize the power of the mind.
Think positive. Mind over matter. Pain is a good thing.