I am so sorry you and your husband are having a rough time. I don't remember if you said what type of job you said your hubby does (Physical? desk?). If he is at 6 weeks now (same as me, tommorow) Eight weeks is still 2 weeks away, (well, obviously
) but what I mean is that how I feel tends to change 10 times an hour, let alone in two weeks, so how he's doing today maybe isn't an indicator of how he'll feel in a couple of weeks.
I am going back to work PT (only 3 hrs a day) tommorrow (I do Human Resources at a desk job). I am VERY lucky that I have a TON of flexibility and can leave earlier if I need to, or can say that after being there tomorrow that its too soon, and I need another week or 2. Even with that flexibility, I am TERRIFIED. (If I go and then its too much, will everyone think Im a wuss? "milking" my pain??) If I bend the wrong way will I cry at work?? How will I go all day (or even 3 hours) without pain meds?? If I take pain meds will I be too drugged to work?? I'm not on any paid disability, but if he is are there any ramifications to him returning? Like if he goes back for a few days, and he ISN'T ready, can he take another week or so off still or will he have to reapply for disability?
I don't know your husband, but can only imagine that this could be even worse for a husband (SO not trying to be sexist or anything, but especially if he was used to supporting the family). Is he scared that if he goes back and can't handle it or isn't as "tough" as he was that he will be letting his boss/co-workers, or you down?? (I know this is how I feel). Will his work let him come back PT or for a trial day? I went and "visited" work last week, which was really good, I saw my friends, talked to coworkers, and prepped my boss for the condition I was in (and what I could and couldn't do). I also saw how much people missed me and got back a bit of the "real world" feeling i'd been missing while living in my Lazy Boy chair
Could he try this??
I know this is really long, sorry. It just really touched me because alot of what you said is what i'm going thru right now too. My gut instinct is to stay home and not go back to work. My back still REALLY hurts. My dr wants me off at least another 2 weeks. But I feel like I have to get back to the real world, for me, or else I never will. I'm sure, that with your love, and time, when he's ready, your husband will also reach this point.
PS. Any luck getting him to read the boards?? I thinks he'd find a lot of support and friends who understand here???