Hello, I am sorry for what you are dealing with. I completely understand, esspecially the extra bonus of living alone.
1st, I'd highly recommend reading the first sticky post, about post op living. It is a long thread, but it is filled with suggestions everyone has had, as to how they live their daily life and get the chores done, etc.
Then, I had to get use to my apt. not being as clean as I use to keep it. That was one of my biggest problems, as I was such a perfectionist. I then found that my county's social service dept. has services for the elderly and disabled. I have a person that comes in to do my laundry, vacuume, mop the floors and take out my trash. I have also taken people from the church up, on comming in and helping me. You can also pay college kids to come in and do some of the light house keeping or pay kids in the area, to come by & and take out your trash.
Also the county's program, has volunteers that can come out and do erands for you, such as grocery shopping and going to the post office etc. So, check with your state or county's social services for the elderly/disabled.
I keep dry foods that I eat on a regular basis, on the counter tops (even though my counters look cluttered). But knowing that if I try to lean into a cupboard or bend down to a shelf...I will be in pain for the rest of the day. So, I put as much as possible at chest level.
When you are at a store and have to stand in line at a cashier, if you go to customer service and let them know that physically you can not stand in line, they will ring you up there, so just ask and don't be ashamed. Most people have been very happy to accomodate me, as soon as I tell them about my back surgery.
If you have any specific chores that you have a hard time with, let me know and I will let you know if I have found any thing to help with it.
Good luck and feel free to come back to the board to ask questions or even just to vent. Life is hard enought to deal with, when there is no pain involved. No one here, will think you are whinning because you are in pain and want to get it off your chest.