[FONT="Comic Sans MS"][SIZE="2"][COLOR="RoyalBlue"]Hi and Hey~lo & welcome to the site...
Sorry to all if this is too long ~ ~
Isn't it the best ~ So glad you were able to find it... I too, found it by accident and it's given me some mental relief to share and read what others are going through. It's sorta given my spouse a break from hearing me go on. No, he's not able to relate to what I go through. Although in kindness, compassion & patience he listens... I do know it becomes too much for him when I see the look on his face resembling [COLOR="Sienna"]The Dull Stare of Dairy [/COLOR][COLOR="sienna"]Cattle[/COLOR]
[U][COLOR="Sienna"]There is Change in you daily life accompanied by Pain.[/COLOR][/U]
One of the rules of mental conduct; pertaining to [COLOR="Sienna"]what you think your family [/COLOR][COLOR="sienna"]thinks [/COLOR]has got to be put in another file folder labled [COLOR="sienna"]" I don't need this "[/COLOR] or [COLOR="sienna"]" I don't care what you think ". [/COLOR]Your main goal is to research, search and find what will best work for you including childern in tow. That includes Dr.s. and Meds. Just because they wear a "White Coat" doesn't mean they know... ~ I do have 2 herniated & another torn disk. L3,4,5,& S-1 and lets throw in a splash of Degenerative Disk Disease ( DDD ) Doc said: "We have to operate !!" ~ My response was, Mmmm ~ why so quick off the cuff. No! I need to do some homework. I've yet to have the surg. It's been 3yrs. I've been able to gather a whole host of helpful alternatives that assist easing pain.
There are times one works better than the other and times they don't. Even up to taking 3 warm/hot soaking bathes a day to ease the body weight off the spine & relaxing the spasming muscles. And am so thankful I have my meds.
I've had to change alot of things that I do and that includes communication. I've also had to come to terms with the actual value of house chores and childern & what is going to make me worse. If during the chore I'm unable to finish ,that's it. It doesn't get done...or it's put off till later or another day when I can accomplish that chore It's taken a bit to get used to the " Not Dones " and I am better for it...Everybody is still alive
If someone says something not so supportive. Which I put up with for one day to long. I offer for them to do it. Deligating is a powerful and helpful tool. [COLOR="Sienna"]I No Longer [/COLOR]await a response from anyone person over 10yrs of age. If they haven't gotten the message by now they'd better. If I need to lay down or take a hot bath to relieve pain... Here's the facts said to the adults. This is what I'm doing please take care of the whatever and whoever.. I don't wait for approval or stand there and explain why I need to do something. I'm not a kid. I'm in pain all day.
People do enjoy helping they just don't know how... So, you get to teach em without saying anything or justifying to them.
[COLOR="Sienna"]Some Helpful Tips:[/COLOR] Which you probably already use...
I do ware my brace as oft as I can as it offers support.
Grocery Shopping. Some of the stores offer ordering online or phone with delivery or P.U. ~I request all the time to have all perishable items placed in plastic bags and none perishable in paper.. I bring in the perishables first and leave the rest for kids to assist or partner when they get home or whatever applies.
These are just ideas for you ~ Not that they offer a lot, but it may assist you in sparking other ideas that work better for you. As you work at easing your pain and overwhelming expectations from yourself or family.
There's been so many times I've changed the food menu from Roasted Chix to a warm cup of soup w/ toasted cheese sandwich & fruit. They are all still alive...and very well.. it's me that needs to be the best I can be considering the daily Chronic Pain.
Best Regards to you and yours...