Re: Back pain but only on one side.
I agree with Kelley, muscle spasms most often indicate another problem. They can be very painful, but your pain may not be only the spasms. Whatever the root problem is may also be causing some of the pain too. Addressing the pain is a good start, but you also have to find the cause of the problem in order to get any long term relief. I hope that this other doctor will be more helpful in finding the actual problem.
I sympathize with you completely regarding dealing with young children while you are in pain. I have a 3 year old and a one year old and it is very hard to take care of them and the house when I am really hurting which is still way too often.