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onegirl · 01-30-2004, 01:46 PM

I have been wandering around all of you for months now, hope you are not offended. I believe that I need some serious guidance in my situation. I have been in a relationship for 7 years. 1.5 yrs ago my b/f was diagnosed w/ Bi-Polar. Beginning - wonderful, a few concerns regarding certain behaviors. I am from another state than he and visit home alot. He came w/ me a first, only to have a miserable time, make everyone including himself VERY uncomfortable, felt out of place, we were all against him, etc..... We used to have an argument, not speak for DAYS, 4-5. A year and a half ago he needed to make some serious decisions regarding his family, decided to cut everyone of them off. (They aren't very nice people) He has 2 sons which he has no contact with, one has another 'father' and family and has pretty much sine birth. The other sons mother called a year and a half ago-same time he cut off his family-and said "get rid of your girlfriend and her daughter, call your other son, call your parents and apologize and you get me and your son" Very difficult decision. He told her he wasn't giving up the only person-me- who ever gave him a chance to be a father- not even of his own flesh and blood. ( My daugher has known him since she was 1.5 yrs old, she's now 9).
He lost it, basically told me how he was going to end it just not when. I convinced him to go to the doc, she prescribed Prozac, has been on it for 18 months. WHAT AN INCREDIBLE DIFFERENCE. different man, my family has come around again, he's absolutely changed for the better. He said he will never go off it. Guess what??? 4 weeks off now. "doesn't need it anymore". I apologize for the length of this thread, just trying to get you there, it won't happen again. It's been great until yesterday- introduced me to his new boss, I said 2 sentences to him and he flipped. "I am nothing but a bigmouth, trying to ruin his life, always have, always will, no good for nothing but running my nouth, trying to destroy everything he has ever worked for, get out, make your own decision and let someone be free." UUHHH??????? WHAT???? Is this a medication thing, BP thing, me thing, or just a complete jerk thing?? I am getting those old feelings that I don't know whats coming next and I need some something. Counseling, been to 2, they want him in there, which by the way, he only had one counseling session, she just kept giving hime 6 mos scripts. Analyze if you will, I would truly appreciate it!! Thanks

wobbly · 01-30-2004, 02:11 PM

It sounds like a going-off-meds thing. He needs to realize that he NEEDS meds to function. Going off meds is not that uncommon for us BPs, and for some people they really have to hit bottom to "get" that they MUST take their meds. His therapist needs to stress this to him so he'll get back on track.

calton · 01-30-2004, 02:33 PM

I have been taking Prozac 40 mg 1x per day for 5 years. You just don't decide on your own and outa the blue to quit taking your meds. That is the problem here; he needs to get back on his meds and STAY ON THEM. Friendly advice; hope he takes it.

thickman · 01-30-2004, 02:36 PM

The man needs to visit a doctor to figure out whats wrong with him.

Pretty clear... If Prozac helped, why stop?

onegirl · 01-30-2004, 07:05 PM

Wow, didn't expect the responses so quickly, however, you have no idea the appreciation I have for them. As I said it wasn't but a couple of months ago he said "I'll never be stop taking it", tonight he told a girlfriend of mine "I don't need need it anymore", she said he was pretty damn adamant about it too. Thickman, TM for short ok?? WHY would someone stop??? Is it b/c they haven't had counseling? Is it a phase? Is it denial? Is it b/c they don't think bi-polar is real? Is it b/c they are in denial that they could possibly truly have a mental disorder they are not in control of? This one psych. saw him one time told him all he needed was a little help-PROZAC- and he would be fine, never checked, called for a follow up, nothing, gave him 6 mos, 3x when he was out 4 weeks ago, I suggested he call someone else, he did and the doc he spoke with said, "MR, if your on Prozac, it's for a reason, you aren't getting 6 mos scripts from me w/out coming to see me at least 2x a month." B/f says "to hell with that, don't need it." Guess I need to wait 'til the next attack??!!!?? For lack of better words. (I truly do not mean any offense out there, just trying to learn how the hell to deal) I have so many questions. so many unanswered questions, I don't mind constructive critiscism or "shut up, you are talking entirely too much", I have found this site to be extremely helpful by observing. I am just so nervous putting my situation out there, you have no idea!!